How do you mend a broken heart?
Thursday, September 25, 2003 by Angel_Wings | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
> Maybe one day I'll figure out how...
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Sugaree
Reply #42 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:36 PM
Reply #42 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:36 PM
I know Angela, I admire people that can put their heartbreaking stories into written words...I've never been able to do that. The heartbreak stories I have to tell are written on my face as I tell them.
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Doreen
Reply #43 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:37 PM
Reply #43 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:37 PM
we wanna hear China's heartbreak stories!
we wanna hear China's heartbreak stories!
we wanna hear China's heartbreak stories!
(well I do) hehe
Doreen goes into evil mood...
we wanna hear China's heartbreak stories!
we wanna hear China's heartbreak stories!
(well I do) hehe
Doreen goes into evil mood...
Angel_Wings
Reply #44 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:39 PM
Reply #44 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:39 PM
Angel_Wings agrees with Doreen...
C'mon China! Fess up most lovely one! Share with us your love trials so that us mere earthlings may learn from you!
C'mon China! Fess up most lovely one! Share with us your love trials so that us mere earthlings may learn from you!
Doreen
Reply #45 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:40 PM
Reply #45 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:40 PM
Chickie try to spend as much time w/ your father in law now and save the tears for the funeral... take care and be strong your mom is going to need you more now (I will pray for you my heart goes out to you I know the feelings) *sigh*
Doreen
Reply #46 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:42 PM
Reply #46 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:42 PM
sorry not your mom? your mother in law right? well she will need your support so be strong
Doreen
Reply #47 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:44 PM
Reply #47 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:44 PM
and I'm playing around w/ you China I don't want you to bring up things that may upset you, you can stick that stuff in the garbage where it all belongs... hehe
where is Java it's ladies night?
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where is Java it's ladies night?
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Sugaree
Reply #48 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:47 PM
Reply #48 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:47 PM
OK, I'll do it just for you...two.
I held my moms hand when she died... I saw her beautiful face turn pale, her fingernails turn blue..the corner took forever to get there, but I didn't mind...cause she was in my arms.
I held my moms hand when she died... I saw her beautiful face turn pale, her fingernails turn blue..the corner took forever to get there, but I didn't mind...cause she was in my arms.
Angel_Wings
Reply #49 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:50 PM
Reply #49 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:50 PM
Wow... China...that is sad and yet somehow so beautiful at the same time...
That intimate moment must be etched in your heart, mind and soul forever...
In a way it was a gift for you to be able to be with her in her last moments... So many people only get that dreaded 'call'...and there's no chance to even say good-bye.
That intimate moment must be etched in your heart, mind and soul forever...
In a way it was a gift for you to be able to be with her in her last moments... So many people only get that dreaded 'call'...and there's no chance to even say good-bye.
Doreen
Reply #50 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:51 PM
Reply #50 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:51 PM
and as a mom she prob could not have died in a more comfortable place... I think that was great you were there to help her on her way out China (not everybody has someone holding them when they leave)
Doreen
Reply #51 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:54 PM
Reply #51 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:54 PM
last person I was w/ that died was my uncle and though I thought it would be painful when I felt the calling from him to go be w/ him when it happened, it was something I'll never forget and was unlike anything I ever experienced and I seen and felt it helped him leave in peace though he suffered awful up until that point, it felt as if we exchanged a gift or something like that?
Doreen
Reply #52 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:03 PM
Reply #52 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:03 PM
China you better not be crying or I'll have to kick your behind... hehe
g'night you girls Doreen is sleepy long day today...
g'night you girls Doreen is sleepy long day today...
Angel_Wings
Reply #53 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:04 PM
Reply #53 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:04 PM
Angel_Wings and Doreen hand china a cold brew and then tickle her until she laughs beer out of her nose!
Angel_Wings
Reply #54 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:05 PM
Reply #54 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:05 PM
G'night Doreen...
Angel_Wings is heading off to sleep too...
Love you gals sooooooooo much! ((((((((GIANT HUG))))))))
Angel_Wings is heading off to sleep too...
Love you gals sooooooooo much! ((((((((GIANT HUG))))))))
IPlural
Reply #55 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:10 PM
Reply #55 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:10 PM
death, relationships thats not one of my strong points personally. I know the mechanics, the psychology of it but can never apply it to myself, I turn cold inside, all black and it takes me time for that to fade to gray, but it never seems to disolve, just gets put some where inside out in the back, waiting...
weird huh?
of course I guess that is whay they call it Dissociative Identity Disorder?
weird huh?
of course I guess that is whay they call it Dissociative Identity Disorder?
Sugaree
Reply #56 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:19 PM
Reply #56 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:19 PM
Thank you Angela & Doreen... to this day, It's a place I don't visit often, I can't let myself go there. It's far too deep and I'm afraid I'll never be able to find my way out.
Okie you've reduced me to salt tears
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Okie you've reduced me to salt tears
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Angel_Wings
Reply #57 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:51 PM
Reply #57 Friday, September 26, 2003 9:51 PM
Angel_Wings flitters in on fairy dust wings and dries ChinaCat's tears and whispers "Don't be sad...your precious and beautiful soul is a testament to your mother whom you obviously cherished...therefore a part of her in YOU lives on strong..."
Just look...you shared a part of her that will live online for a long time...WC keeps threads from wAYYYYYYY back... So in a way...you brought her back to life here for us to know.
Angel_Wings cherishes Chincat's salt tears and saves them lovingly in a vial along with many other's tears...
Crying is good...it's healthy and healing and RIGHT. I didn't cry from age 15 to 21 and I held everything inside...then when I gave birth to my daughter it was like a flood/torrent of emotions came forth...! I cried at the drop of a hat! I was truly pathetic but I had finally made contact with my inner self after shutting it down for so damned long.
I still shut off from the real me...I find I don't like myself so much which is hard because I want to but well...I look in the mirror every day and say, "I hate your guts...die already"...I have a morbid death wish and yet an intense fear of death too. Go figure?
Everyone I should have trusted [growing up] let me down...
To love is to trust and it hurts when that trust is taken for granted and not cherished and honored.
Just look...you shared a part of her that will live online for a long time...WC keeps threads from wAYYYYYYY back... So in a way...you brought her back to life here for us to know.
Angel_Wings cherishes Chincat's salt tears and saves them lovingly in a vial along with many other's tears...
Crying is good...it's healthy and healing and RIGHT. I didn't cry from age 15 to 21 and I held everything inside...then when I gave birth to my daughter it was like a flood/torrent of emotions came forth...! I cried at the drop of a hat! I was truly pathetic but I had finally made contact with my inner self after shutting it down for so damned long.
I still shut off from the real me...I find I don't like myself so much which is hard because I want to but well...I look in the mirror every day and say, "I hate your guts...die already"...I have a morbid death wish and yet an intense fear of death too. Go figure?
Everyone I should have trusted [growing up] let me down...
To love is to trust and it hurts when that trust is taken for granted and not cherished and honored.
Chickie
Reply #58 Saturday, September 27, 2003 6:36 AM
Reply #58 Saturday, September 27, 2003 6:36 AM
Why are women, me too, more emotional?
Crying is good. I hate crying cuz the tears makes my face hot & sticky. Bleh! No offense to other women. Crying does feel good.
Crying is good. I hate crying cuz the tears makes my face hot & sticky. Bleh! No offense to other women. Crying does feel good.
Doreen
Reply #59 Saturday, September 27, 2003 7:01 AM
Reply #59 Saturday, September 27, 2003 7:01 AM
ummm cuz we're girls and the weaker sex?
(or suppose to be but some guys are wimps) hehe!
Doreen is in nasty mood today
(or suppose to be but some guys are wimps) hehe!
Doreen is in nasty mood today
IPlural
Reply #60 Saturday, September 27, 2003 7:05 AM
Reply #60 Saturday, September 27, 2003 7:05 AM
my uneducated guess would be that it is based upon the be a Man syndrome. Boys are taught from a young age either at home or by peers that to show what is seen as a weakness means you are less than a man.
Odd huh?
Boy's learn not to have any relationship with their emotions to the point that they will learn to morph anything emotional to anger, or turn to verbal fencing to avoid allowing themselves to be put in the situation where they have to face them. In time they almost always have to re-learn, or out right learn it isn't weakness but a part of being human.
In some cases I think this is key part of those whom are homophobic. Conditioning to avoid it because it makes you less than a man and not a woman. Little boy's through the word queer around as if it is the worst thing in the world for you to be, and if you are then you learn not to admit it. As they get older it becomes a reason to fight if someone dares to call you such. If you are you fear being labeled because it will be a youth of pain and suffering of another deeper personal kind than the one you are forced to live which is a lie.
Also on a personal note, I feel that not allowing your emotions to exist is more detrimental than divorcing them....
Males who have to face flowering emotions which are a totally new or forgotten thing go through even more emotional hell than they would if they just had to face the issues with something they understand, their emotions...
Tools of healing...
boy that should get a rise out of someone....
Odd huh?
Boy's learn not to have any relationship with their emotions to the point that they will learn to morph anything emotional to anger, or turn to verbal fencing to avoid allowing themselves to be put in the situation where they have to face them. In time they almost always have to re-learn, or out right learn it isn't weakness but a part of being human.
In some cases I think this is key part of those whom are homophobic. Conditioning to avoid it because it makes you less than a man and not a woman. Little boy's through the word queer around as if it is the worst thing in the world for you to be, and if you are then you learn not to admit it. As they get older it becomes a reason to fight if someone dares to call you such. If you are you fear being labeled because it will be a youth of pain and suffering of another deeper personal kind than the one you are forced to live which is a lie.
Also on a personal note, I feel that not allowing your emotions to exist is more detrimental than divorcing them....
Males who have to face flowering emotions which are a totally new or forgotten thing go through even more emotional hell than they would if they just had to face the issues with something they understand, their emotions...
Tools of healing...
boy that should get a rise out of someone....
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Reply #41 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:34 PM