How do you mend a broken heart?
Thursday, September 25, 2003 by Angel_Wings | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
> Maybe one day I'll figure out how...
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RadialFX
Reply #22 Friday, September 26, 2003 1:25 AM
Reply #22 Friday, September 26, 2003 1:25 AM
Hi Shmoop! It's ol Rad. I understand what you are experiencing. It not only hurts emotionally but (as wierd as it sounds) physically. I HAVE BEEN THERE. It's horrible. Mine hurt so bad that I had no choice but to try to understand. I knew moving to either one of the artic circles would'nt make it better. That was 11 years ago. I spent the next 8 years or so studying our emotions. Not only as an individual but how they are effected by other people, love, loss and our environment. There are a lot of ways of "Working" on things like this. But one of the most important things that I learned in all of it was this. All of the Therapists, Phsychologist, relationship experts, etc... so on and so on can promise a solution but,and that's a big but, until a person is ready to be a good patient they can't help. I am truly setting here with a slight twinge of those old feelings just writing this, so please understand, this is coming from my heart to you as a friend. You will only get past it when, enough time (for you) go by for you to become rational with your thoughts and feelings about the situation. Only you will find the right way for you to understand and accept. These feelings are something you may or may not want to forget. Remembering them may help you and then they may hurt you. Only you can decide. I could go on and on and but I don't want to take up too much space here, but as your friend I can help you with the names of some books and some other stuff that can be really helpfull. You know you can e-mail me anytime. I have a girlfriend of 3 yrs so this isn't a setup of anykind. I only offer cause I can see you're feelings here and they have stirred my old feelings and I feel for you. I may even be making a total rear of myself here and I apologize if I am. Heck..it wouldn't be the first time! My family thinks I was born a rear and just grew bigger! 
Anyway the invitation is there if you're ever interested my mailbox is open. Again, I promise, I'm not a predator. I'm in love wih someone I can't stand! Her name is Monica. Either way I hope that it quits hurting you so bad.
Anyway the invitation is there if you're ever interested my mailbox is open. Again, I promise, I'm not a predator. I'm in love wih someone I can't stand! Her name is Monica. Either way I hope that it quits hurting you so bad.
Zodiaq~
Reply #24 Friday, September 26, 2003 1:46 AM
Everyone goes through the 'Broken Heart' routine...Not to say that it is not hurtful but the kind that you are speaking of Dreamdesign3d is unimaginable to most...I am so very sorry for your loss. I have a 2 year old boy that I love more than I ever thought possible...to lose him would be more devistating than words can express...I don't believe that time could ever take that pain away.
Reply #24 Friday, September 26, 2003 1:46 AM
| #21 by Dreamdesign3d - 9/26/2003 12:20:19 AM I lost a son (1 year 4 months old) and a fiancé before I met my wife. About 11 years ago to a drunk driver, and well I’m still waiting for time to heal. |
Everyone goes through the 'Broken Heart' routine...Not to say that it is not hurtful but the kind that you are speaking of Dreamdesign3d is unimaginable to most...I am so very sorry for your loss. I have a 2 year old boy that I love more than I ever thought possible...to lose him would be more devistating than words can express...I don't believe that time could ever take that pain away.
RadialFX
Reply #25 Friday, September 26, 2003 2:04 AM
Reply #25 Friday, September 26, 2003 2:04 AM
Zodiaq~ , I soooo much agree with you. I am a single dad having raised them by myself since they were 10 & 5 and I can't even imagine ever getting over that great a loss. It has to be the saddest thing a parent/adult can think of. I don't think it's even possible to relate to that if you haven't been there. My heart goes out to you Dreamdesign3D.
IPlural, We used to be neighbors! I saw that in another thread.
IPlural, We used to be neighbors! I saw that in another thread.
SelfExiled
Reply #26 Friday, September 26, 2003 2:04 AM
Reply #26 Friday, September 26, 2003 2:04 AM
I'm sure that there is a reason, Shmoopy. Some people can only care about themselves. Some people only care about money. And some people have been hurt so deeply that all they can think to do is to find some who truly loves them and hurt them back in some cruel revenge. And some people have been hurt so badly that they refuse to love again. But, there is a reason. The reason is that there is someone really wonderful in this world for you. And, if anyone would let you suffer, like it seems that you are, then they aren't the one for you. You are a very caring person, Shmoopy, I learned that a while ago. And, now I see that you are a very beautiful woman too. Any man who would throw that away is a fool. So Shmoopy, for you, there is a reason. 
eieio
Reply #27 Friday, September 26, 2003 5:20 AM
Reply #27 Friday, September 26, 2003 5:20 AM
Shmoopy, remember the first person you ever loved? It was you. Take time to love yourself, again. That person inside you that knows everything about you and is always there no matter what.
Big ((((HUGS))))
Big ((((HUGS))))
grayhaze
Reply #28 Friday, September 26, 2003 5:42 AM
Reply #28 Friday, September 26, 2003 5:42 AM
My heart's been broken so many times that it's more like a little pile of bits than a coherent whole. True love's the hardest to deal with when it's taken away, but you just have to take a step back and put your energies into something else for a while. It's just a grieving process really. You never really stop loving, but eventually you come to terms with your loss and can begin to think about moving on.
My advice would be to go out and spend some money on pointless things for yourself and to steer clear of listening to music for a while. In your current state, even the lyrics of the worst song in the world will seem apt. It's best to devote as much time to yourself and getting your own life back on track as possible. If he wants you back, he'll come back. You can't dwell on what you did wrong, when in truth it probably wasn't anything you did which caused things to go bad.
Above all, try to keep going and spend time with your friends. You have plenty here.
My advice would be to go out and spend some money on pointless things for yourself and to steer clear of listening to music for a while. In your current state, even the lyrics of the worst song in the world will seem apt. It's best to devote as much time to yourself and getting your own life back on track as possible. If he wants you back, he'll come back. You can't dwell on what you did wrong, when in truth it probably wasn't anything you did which caused things to go bad.
Above all, try to keep going and spend time with your friends. You have plenty here.
Chickie
Reply #30 Friday, September 26, 2003 7:06 AM
Reply #30 Friday, September 26, 2003 7:06 AM
Shmoopy, it does take time to heal. It is hard to find "Mr. Right" out there in this crazy world. 
My heart shattered into million pieces. I've been into baaaaaad relationships throughout my teenage & adult years. I hope ya find "Mr. Right." in the future. Nobody's perfect. Take care of yourself. You're a pretty girl.
My heart shattered into million pieces. I've been into baaaaaad relationships throughout my teenage & adult years. I hope ya find "Mr. Right." in the future. Nobody's perfect. Take care of yourself. You're a pretty girl.
carolelee
Reply #31 Friday, September 26, 2003 7:33 AM
Reply #31 Friday, September 26, 2003 7:33 AM
There is alot of good advice on this thread Shmoopy, my heart breaks for you and I understand how you feel..........time will heal(((HUGS)))
kona0197
Reply #32 Friday, September 26, 2003 12:54 PM
Reply #32 Friday, September 26, 2003 12:54 PM
Angela, if it helps any, I will tell you I lost my father at the age of 7 and to this day it hurts because we were SO close. i also lost my dearest grandma last year. I know the pain. Losing my dad hurts me so bad that I constantly screw things up to this day. What helps me is the fact and/or feeling that I know he is watching over me and is in a better place.
Hang in there girl, it will get better!
Hang in there girl, it will get better!
Doreen
Reply #33 Friday, September 26, 2003 4:41 PM
Reply #33 Friday, September 26, 2003 4:41 PM
Guess I'm not so worried about finding a new love as I am sad about losing a true love...
#13 by Shmoopy - 9/25/2003 10:10:16 PM
true love? hehe
if he was your true love he'd be true and obvously he ain't if he's gone? right?
anyways, when I feel like true love, romance and fantasy I go rent a flick cuz they seem to get it right!
Angela "try" not to base your happiness on someone else or you'll be on a rollercoaster, you said you have a daughter she may not have that kind of love you're looking for but she will give you a love you can count on that is real for the time being and you got us!
and listen to chickie...
#13 by Shmoopy - 9/25/2003 10:10:16 PM
true love? hehe
if he was your true love he'd be true and obvously he ain't if he's gone? right?
anyways, when I feel like true love, romance and fantasy I go rent a flick cuz they seem to get it right!
Angela "try" not to base your happiness on someone else or you'll be on a rollercoaster, you said you have a daughter she may not have that kind of love you're looking for but she will give you a love you can count on that is real for the time being and you got us!
and listen to chickie...
Chickie
Reply #34 Friday, September 26, 2003 4:52 PM
Reply #34 Friday, September 26, 2003 4:52 PM
My father in law has cancer. He's getting closer to... 
My hubby & Kyle went to his house. Soon, Grammy Judd will be a widow. 
I'm angry about this. Kyle & Grampa Judd were close. Now, it's almost time for to go. My heart is breaking. I'm NOT gonna say good-bye to my father in law. I'm not going to the funeral. I never say good bye when people start to die. I always say "See ya later or soon." I'm sorry to tell ya this. I'm sorry about passing away. My father in law is weak. He's dying. I can't deal with funerals. I will lost it.
Tonight, I'm gonna watch a movie - Money Pit. Movies can cheer ya up.
My hubby & Kyle went to his house. Soon, Grammy Judd will be a widow. I'm angry about this. Kyle & Grampa Judd were close. Now, it's almost time for to go. My heart is breaking. I'm NOT gonna say good-bye to my father in law. I'm not going to the funeral. I never say good bye when people start to die. I always say "See ya later or soon." I'm sorry to tell ya this. I'm sorry about passing away. My father in law is weak. He's dying. I can't deal with funerals. I will lost it. Tonight, I'm gonna watch a movie - Money Pit. Movies can cheer ya up.
Angel_Wings
Reply #35 Friday, September 26, 2003 6:40 PM
Reply #35 Friday, September 26, 2003 6:40 PM
You people are some of the finest creatures on the planet...PERIOD.
After reading some of the heart-breaks and heart-aches that some of you have experienced... I am humbled. I feel mine is tiny and silly in comparison.
I shall take your advice to heart... Thank you for comforting me my precious sisters and bros...(((BIG HUG))) *sigh*
Good people do exist...and a good helping of them exist right here.
After reading some of the heart-breaks and heart-aches that some of you have experienced... I am humbled. I feel mine is tiny and silly in comparison.
I shall take your advice to heart... Thank you for comforting me my precious sisters and bros...(((BIG HUG))) *sigh*
Good people do exist...and a good helping of them exist right here.
elvee
Reply #36 Friday, September 26, 2003 6:46 PM
Reply #36 Friday, September 26, 2003 6:46 PM
I am still looking for a true love, My other half, My better half
Hus
Reply #37 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:08 PM
Reply #37 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:08 PM
Life is too short to wallow about a broken heart, it's being able to pick up the pieces that makes you stronger.
Sugaree
Reply #38 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:10 PM
Reply #38 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:10 PM
Okie, this is a sad thread..click!
you don't want me to start pouring my heartbreaking stories all over here!
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you don't want me to start pouring my heartbreaking stories all over here!
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Angel_Wings
Reply #40 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:25 PM
Reply #40 Friday, September 26, 2003 8:25 PM
Hus, China...sometimes folks find they can 'identify' somehow and feel a want to share too. Yes, it can be sad but it's good to know that people are brave enough to share some of their deepest feelings and experiences here. I think it shows just how strong of a bond many of us have here at WC. Everything can't always be hunky-dory...and while it does tug at one's tear-ducts and heart-strings to read some personal stories...it also heartens me that folks were forthcoming enough to share them...that is a very brave thing to do and to those who shared...I wish I could hug away the pain and sadness.
People own hearts and minds and souls...and when we give them freely out...there is the chance they WILL get hurt but I refuse to be a COMPLETE (hehe) shut-in and not experience some of the most glorious people of the world. Nope...not gon' do it...would't be prudent at this juncture. hehe
People own hearts and minds and souls...and when we give them freely out...there is the chance they WILL get hurt but I refuse to be a COMPLETE (hehe) shut-in and not experience some of the most glorious people of the world. Nope...not gon' do it...would't be prudent at this juncture. hehe
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Reply #21 Friday, September 26, 2003 12:20 AM