We're here for you if you need any moral support.  

Hey Karen, you have loads of friends here

Time heals as they say, but skinning cures all ills Seriously though, get active and pump your energy into lots of activities, you'll feel much better.

Perhaps there's just a possibility you may just get to see this as a good thing....

...eventually.

"when the jerk left..." indicates there's a chance...

^ What he said. Always, Karen.  We're a motley crew at best, but we're your motley crew.

Thanks, Guys.  You're good people to know, and I appreciate your moral support.

Hope you feel better soon Karen.......

Am sorry for you Karen.  If ya need to chat just holler.

Yup! So have some dis... and some dis... . We're here for you love.

I never have the right words for this kind of stuff . I'm kind of on the other side with disability looming and worrying about not pulling my weight at home like I was when i was a regional manager for the Southeast with a company car and expense account. I worry that my wife will look at me as a burden and not a help, which I have been for two years now.

I haven't given up. Hell, I'm insanely jealous that she gets to go to a job. I have been looking forever for something I can do from home but everything is scam. My own depression nd pain has held me back as well with my art. If it weren't for a few friends on here, I would not have made it through the holidays at all. in more ways than one.

I hope you find your muse, your joy, and your ability to see that we all love you here and are here for you, no matter what. You have brought so much joy and happiness to everyone here with your art, humor, caring, and your ability to reach out to anyone and everyone when they needed it.

No pressure, sweetie. Just heal. Know we are in your corner and sending good thoughts and lots of love. You can be here, part of your home away from home, if you will, in any capacity you feel good with and I speak for everyone, I believe, that we will  just be glad to be with you and rejoicing that you are hanging with us.

live hard sister, and keep rocking cause me and andy luv you soooo effing much xxxxoxox

You have my unwaivering support Karen. I can truelly understand what you are going through. My now, ex-wife, ran off with another man back in 1991. I went to Florida and moved in with my parents and started a new life for myself. It took me about 2 years to really feel normal again, but I did it and I know that you can too. It all makes you stronger. After 20+ plus years of being divorced, my eyes see clearly now and I can see that things worked out for the better, which I suspect that will happen with you as well. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I'm certain that God's blessings will show you the way.           -- Ace --

We miss your art, imagination and humor.

Come home any time, we'll leave a light on for you and the key under the doormat.

Hey Karen, I know what it's like when a significant other leaves and everything is a mess.

When my 1st wife left and I had to kids two raise/support it was hard, but as time passed I found it easier and easier... so much so that when she came back a couple of years later wanting to rekindle the relationship I told her to piss off.  I didn't have anyone else at the time, but I figured no relationship was better than a bad one, and that's exactly what it would have been, given the benefit of hindsight.

I kicked my second wife out because she got stuck into my daughter to my 1st wife over a broken beer bottle... like she lashed her with a leather belt over it, and there's no way I could tolerate such violence toward a child, least of all toward one of my own.  Again I was alone and I wasn't enjoying it much, but I needed to keep my head on straight for my kids sakes, and that's what pulled me through... keeping busy and occupying myself with good, happy things.

Funnily enough, I turned to writing poetry when I was feeling blue, and some of it was pretty powerful stuff.  It was representative of how I was feeling hurt, angry and betrayed.  Would have made great lyrics for a blues song, but alas, I could not read or write music, and now I no longer have the poems to have a go at it anyway... somewhere along the way they became lost or stolen or something.

Take your time, go and do the things you need to do, be creative.

We will be waiting for you when you get over this hump in your journey ...

It's easy for me to say, but in the end it will probably be a relief to you. I know that it's not like that now.

So sorry to hear this Karen. 

Life always seems to provide us a bumpy road to travel down.  How we handle the bumps, potholes and detours will enable us to get to our next stop.

Damn, really didn't want to make that sound like the Twilight Zone.  

Don't be a stranger. 

Hang in there Karen, you are among friends here. It will take time to heal and move on, give your self that.

Take care    

Been where you're at myself for close to 5 years now Karen, and still on my own. It takes time, but things will get better. Sounds like you are on the right track with your life staying busy with things though, that is the right thing to do, and as others have said, you have many friends here.

Well, I bet you're not selling weed out of your living room for pocket change, like my husband was before he left, and I bet you didn't take your entire last check and spend it on a huge ghetto back tattoo that says "BEAST," either.

He was always pretty incompetent when it comes to getting and keeping a job, but I supported him and went into debt to the point of losing my house for him because he wanted to get his vocational degree that he never did anything with, because I loved him and made the promise to be with him through good times and bad.  Apparently witnessing his half-sister who lives off of welfare and his cousin who works part time and lives in a house his mother gave him and gets food stamps because he has a child, made him jealous that THEY get to sit around, get high and play video games without someone in the background watching hopefully that they will get a job or do something constructive, was just enough to make him think at 45 years of age, he didn't have to do anything more than they were.

I know in the end I'll be glad it happened; first, I deserve better, second I am no longer at risk of being arrested for the illegal activities he engages in.  It's just insulting and humiliating that after I gave him my all...to the point of losing my house, having to file for bankruptcy, and moving away from my son, abandoning me here where I don't have any relatives to help out or depend on, he ditched me to in favor of living in a cockroach infested dump with his alcoholic cousin, and sleep alone on a sofa rather than in my house with all his needs and most of his entertainment paid for.

wow...       sounds like the old....girl meets boy.... girl marries boy..... girl gives up her career hopes and dreams to put boy through med school doing two jobs to support him for a better future life.... boy graduates... boy divorces girl....  girl is many years behind where she should have been..... what a scumbag....  you truly are better off....

he obviously was never going to kick any goals... pity you didn't kick him out first and keep your home... still... today is the first day of the rest of your life... an old corny saying... but very true...

you've had more than enough motivation for the both of you to keep things together up till now... just imagine how you'll fly without a 45 year old child to look after, when you get over the shock of it..  

Congratulations on getting rid of the millstone around your neck.... now... hurry up and divorce him before you win the lottery....  

and Po'...  your situation is worlds apart... you can't help all the health issues that have been thrown at you.... I'm sure your wife knows how lucky she is to have you... in sickness and in health...