Why do some people have to be difficult?
Sunday, June 6, 2004 by Fuzzy Logic | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
For the last twelve years I've been going in my local pub every Friday for a game of cards and a few beers. It's a nice group and we have a great night. About six months ago, someone new joined us, herein referred to as 'D' - no problem, all are welcome. But he has PC problems, basic ones. A while back I went and sorted his PC for him, which I don't mind doing for anyone. However, he has yet more PC problems, and now believes I am his own personal PC World 
Three weeks ago he asked me to spend Saturday morning fixing his PC - I said no. He got really angry and said this isn't what friends are for, now we know where we stand etc etc. We've not spoken since then. Some of the others have expressed their concern about his behaviour. I've said, not to worry and to forget about it. It's not worth the trouble.
Last Friday 'D' invited a couple of friends, and ordered a full spread of food, sandwiches etc for everyone. However, he said the food was for everyone except me...! No problem, I wouldn't touch it anyway.
Then, to my surprise, not one of our group touched the food. In fact, one of my friends got up and told 'D' to his face that if one of his friends was excluded, then he was excluded too, and that he could keep the food. This guy 'D' was then left with a dozen trays of food, and no-one to eat it!
I didn't ask for any of this. I prefer to stay out of the way, mind my own business and not get involved in any aggro. But somehow it has been thrust upon me.
It was a great feeling to find out everyone was behind me. I won't forget that - that's what real friends do. I think this 'D' needs to learn something about friends, because he appears to have none right now
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I now have until next Friday to decide what to do. 'D' needs to be sorted. The last few weeks you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. I'm not putting up with him upsetting everyone like this. It's not in my nature to seek confrontation, but I'm afraid for everyone's sake, I'm going to have to do what's necessary.
Suggestions of a non-violent nature welcome
Three weeks ago he asked me to spend Saturday morning fixing his PC - I said no. He got really angry and said this isn't what friends are for, now we know where we stand etc etc. We've not spoken since then. Some of the others have expressed their concern about his behaviour. I've said, not to worry and to forget about it. It's not worth the trouble.Last Friday 'D' invited a couple of friends, and ordered a full spread of food, sandwiches etc for everyone. However, he said the food was for everyone except me...! No problem, I wouldn't touch it anyway.
Then, to my surprise, not one of our group touched the food. In fact, one of my friends got up and told 'D' to his face that if one of his friends was excluded, then he was excluded too, and that he could keep the food. This guy 'D' was then left with a dozen trays of food, and no-one to eat it!
I didn't ask for any of this. I prefer to stay out of the way, mind my own business and not get involved in any aggro. But somehow it has been thrust upon me.
It was a great feeling to find out everyone was behind me. I won't forget that - that's what real friends do. I think this 'D' needs to learn something about friends, because he appears to have none right now
. I now have until next Friday to decide what to do. 'D' needs to be sorted. The last few weeks you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. I'm not putting up with him upsetting everyone like this. It's not in my nature to seek confrontation, but I'm afraid for everyone's sake, I'm going to have to do what's necessary.
Suggestions of a non-violent nature welcome
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Stockholm Syndrome
Reply #42 Monday, June 7, 2004 11:33 PM
Three hours? And no appreciation? What a pal.
I had another "friend" have me over to spend a few hours cleaning the latest virus off his PC awhile back. Two weeks later, same call. Apparently he''d turned off the free AV I installed because "it was slow". Of course he never elaborated on who or what was "slow" but I don''t think it was the PC.
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Reply #42 Monday, June 7, 2004 11:33 PM
| He wasn''t grateful the first time I fixed it. I had to clear out several old ISPs, set up a new one, reconfigure his mail settings, edit the registry, clear out years of junk etc etc. Spent about three hours getting the whole rig running as smooth as possible! The following week he announced that he''d like to go back to his old ISP and would I do it for him...grrr.As for his current problem - I''ve already explained what to do. I thought that was enough! Apparently not... |
Three hours? And no appreciation? What a pal.
I had another "friend" have me over to spend a few hours cleaning the latest virus off his PC awhile back. Two weeks later, same call. Apparently he''d turned off the free AV I installed because "it was slow". Of course he never elaborated on who or what was "slow" but I don''t think it was the PC.
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Alternate Setting
Reply #43 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 12:12 AM
Reply #43 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 12:12 AM
We must safeguard our new moderator - here you go fuzzy a new toy
f0rTyLeGz
Reply #44 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 1:06 AM
Reply #44 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 1:06 AM
I think it's wonderful that your friends ALL rejected his food. It's D's problem now, because obviously his war with you has caused him to lose face with everyone. If he comes and apologizes to everyone, then perhaps the group will accept him back. I kind of doubt it, because it's all too strange really. But the ball is in his court, and I wouldn't approach him. Just my 2 cents.
XX
Reply #45 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:15 AM
Reply #45 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:15 AM
Jeez. I had that problem before. After the third time, I simply dodged with "other appointments", etc.
Only one I put up with that is my own mom and sister. Usually, my sis pays me by going out eat and paying for me.
Only one I put up with that is my own mom and sister. Usually, my sis pays me by going out eat and paying for me.
SelfExiled
Reply #46 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:42 AM
And the week after, he'll want to go back to the other one again. Sheesh.
I'll add a couple of sense too.
Reply #46 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:42 AM
| The following week he announced that he'd like to go back to his old ISP and would I do it for him...grrr. |
And the week after, he'll want to go back to the other one again. Sheesh.
| But the ball is in his court, and I wouldn't approach him. Just my 2 cents. |
I'll add a couple of sense too.
I.R. Brainiac
Reply #47 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:37 PM
Reply #47 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 2:37 PM
So whens you first date Fuzzy?(or didnt you follow my advice?) 
CerebroJD
Reply #49 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 3:13 PM
Reply #49 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 3:13 PM
Hey Fuzzy, just tell him that you're too busy with you're new "management position" on a massive web site, and cannot make time to help him. 
DesignCaddy
Reply #50 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 7:22 PM
Reply #50 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 7:22 PM
fuzzy i just want to congratulate you for the choice of your friends. those are real friends.. i could never count on my group to stick up for me like that. i think you've got enough here to go on, so just let us know how it turns out.
Fuzzy Logic
Reply #51 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 9:19 PM
Reply #51 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 9:19 PM
Brainy: I think it is you who has the problem not me!
Thanks for putting things in perspective... 
I.R. Brainiac
Reply #52 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 11:32 PM
Reply #52 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 11:32 PM
Fuzzy Fuzzy...I'm just trying to help...if you cant go for your natural inclinations.........who am I to try and turn you away... 
I.R. Brainiac
Reply #53 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 11:55 PM
Reply #53 Tuesday, June 8, 2004 11:55 PM
You know you could just impregnate him with one of those trojans that allows you to open his cd rom any time you want to.
yrag
Reply #54 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:11 AM
Are we talking about a condom??
Reply #54 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:11 AM
| #53 by I.R. Brainiac - 6/8/2004 11:55:21 PM You know you could just impregnate him with one of those trojans that allows you to open his cd rom any time you want to. |
Are we talking about a condom??
yrag
Reply #56 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:24 AM
Reply #56 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:24 AM
Oh yeah...you're right. Guess he'd give birth to a bunch of condoms..
yrag
Reply #58 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:28 AM
Reply #58 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:28 AM
How you doin' out there in the land of OZ, Ande?...haven't seen you around for a while.
I.R. Brainiac
Reply #59 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:28 AM
Reply #59 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:28 AM
NO, I was not talking about a condom.Fuzzy has enough problems without US making it worse.I'm sure he's "straightened" this guy out already.He really dosnt need our help anymore.
Fuzzy...new contact group...men at conflict...can solve all your probs...
Fuzzy...new contact group...men at conflict...can solve all your probs...
yrag
Reply #60 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:31 AM
Reply #60 Wednesday, June 9, 2004 12:31 AM
Gee Brainy...you're the one that wanted him to go on a date with the guy.....did you want to go 'unprotected' too??
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Reply #41 Monday, June 7, 2004 10:37 PM