Sad news this week...
Sunday, February 22, 2004 by jarget | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
We just found out recently that my 71 year old Mother has pancreatic cancer. Unfortunately it is located in an area of the pancreas that is difficult to treat. She has been ill since just before Thanksgiving and has hardly eatin anything since then. She's been in and out of the er from Nov. up until a week ago when doctors finally decided she should be hospitalized. They've run all kinds of tests and xrays and cat scans and biopsies. My Dad was with her yesterday when her doctor told her she would only have 6 to 12 months to live. I got there about about 3pm and the first thing out of my Mother's mouth was "Joe I'm going to die in 6 months" as she cried. My heart sank and I fought to keep it together. I'm very close to my mother and I don't think I'll ever lose that image of my mom telling me that with the fear and terror in her face. My brother came down and my sister will be here tomorrow. Anyway my mom is schedule for a pancreatic bypass surgery this coming Monday which is only being done to give her the 6 to 12 months.
It's just too soon to lose my Mom. It's hard to imagine life without her.
It's just too soon to lose my Mom. It's hard to imagine life without her.
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Shameless Designs
Reply #2 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:59 AM
Reply #2 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:59 AM
My sincerest sympathies and heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family, Jarget. I went through a similar experience with my father not long ago and I can understand how you must be feeling. I know that sympathy and prayer are no compensation for the pain you feel, but I offer both anyway, and wish I could do more.
Sugaree
Reply #3 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:59 AM
Reply #3 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:59 AM
I'm so sorry, Joe. I lost my Mom 6 years March 1..The only thing I can tell you.. Is to spend every moment you can with her....And when it's time, Let her go surrounded with people she loves.
wombat_1
Reply #4 Sunday, February 22, 2004 4:15 AM
Reply #4 Sunday, February 22, 2004 4:15 AM
Do as China says ..... my Dad is in his last few days with us, and could slip away at any time.
But he is comfortable and peaceful, so I try to sit with him for a few hours each night .... he may or may not know I'm there but it's important he has one of us with him when the time comes.
Hang in there and stay strong.
But he is comfortable and peaceful, so I try to sit with him for a few hours each night .... he may or may not know I'm there but it's important he has one of us with him when the time comes.
Hang in there and stay strong.
Rutabaga64
Reply #5 Sunday, February 22, 2004 10:42 AM
Reply #5 Sunday, February 22, 2004 10:42 AM
So sad to hear, Joe...my thoughts and prayers are definitely with you, your mother, and your entire family. The coming months will not doubt be difficult, but hang on to the love, the joy, and the beauty of your mother, and that will help carry you through.
Doreen
Reply #6 Sunday, February 22, 2004 11:48 AM
Reply #6 Sunday, February 22, 2004 11:48 AM
jarget so sorry to read this 
(I just prayed for you too)
the best gift you can give her now is to be by her side during her exit and try to make it easier for her, I see alot of death w/ my job (though statistically and on paper, I still "see" it)
71 years or 100 makes no diff, the pain, but be thankful for the 71 years and pray for a miracle if one does not come, then comfort her on her way out w/ love...
(my heart goes out to you, though I don't expect to handle my own moms exit when that day comes very well either)
(I just prayed for you too)
the best gift you can give her now is to be by her side during her exit and try to make it easier for her, I see alot of death w/ my job (though statistically and on paper, I still "see" it)
71 years or 100 makes no diff, the pain, but be thankful for the 71 years and pray for a miracle if one does not come, then comfort her on her way out w/ love...
(my heart goes out to you, though I don't expect to handle my own moms exit when that day comes very well either)
carolelee
Reply #7 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:14 PM
Reply #7 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:14 PM
Such sad news, you and your mom are in my prayers 
Ladysarajane
Reply #8 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:23 PM
Reply #8 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:23 PM
I am so sorry to hear that. Please look into Hospice care in your area. They are wonderful. They focus on the Family as well as the ill person. They will come to you, no matter if you choose inpatient or home care. My prayers are with you and your family.
Apocalypse_67
Reply #10 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:35 PM
Reply #10 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:35 PM
Im trully sorry to hear that Jarget. I know how difficult it must be as I have also lost loved ones to cancer. My prayer are with you and your loved ones.
White_Moth
Reply #11 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:39 PM
Reply #11 Sunday, February 22, 2004 12:39 PM
I know such loss, and even now am facing the near same as you with my Mother.
Yet I find great strength and courage through my Faith in Christ Jesus in whom I pray, for your time of great need.
Yet I find great strength and courage through my Faith in Christ Jesus in whom I pray, for your time of great need.
bmetelsky
Reply #13 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:09 PM
Reply #13 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:09 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I lost my father recently. I was very grateful for the time we spent together.
Hy_Rolr
Reply #14 Sunday, February 22, 2004 4:18 PM
Reply #14 Sunday, February 22, 2004 4:18 PM
So sorry to hear about your Mothers condition and prognosis.
I lost my Mother due to complications resulting from Lung Cancer surgery in 1991. She was only 51yrs. old and did not deserve her fate. All I can say is spend as much time with her as you possibly can and cherish every moment.
God Bless...
I lost my Mother due to complications resulting from Lung Cancer surgery in 1991. She was only 51yrs. old and did not deserve her fate. All I can say is spend as much time with her as you possibly can and cherish every moment.
God Bless...
Jafo
Reply #16 Sunday, February 22, 2004 6:27 PM
Reply #16 Sunday, February 22, 2004 6:27 PM
I'm sorry to hear this, Joe. Inevitability of this for all of us never makes it any easier when the time comes.
Take care and stay close to your family. Often others will need you more than even you may be needing them.
Wild_Is_The_Wind
Reply #17 Sunday, February 22, 2004 7:32 PM
Reply #17 Sunday, February 22, 2004 7:32 PM
I also know the feeeling jarget lost my father to cancer 14 years ago he was 52 (way to young) Cried for 3 days Still miss him..Will say the serenity prayer for you...Jim
Cried for 3 days Still miss him..Will say the serenity prayer for you...Jim
DavidK
Reply #18 Sunday, February 22, 2004 8:03 PM
Reply #18 Sunday, February 22, 2004 8:03 PM
I would also recommend the hospice for you and your mother jarget. They are so helpful and so compassionate. The process of passing from this world is something everyone will undertake at some time. It's good to have experts to help maintain the dignity and courage we would all like to experience at such a time.
You have my heartfelt condolences and I also second the advice, be with her as much as you can.
goodmorphing
Reply #19 Sunday, February 22, 2004 9:10 PM
Reply #19 Sunday, February 22, 2004 9:10 PM
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry. I know it's really hard. Don't be afraid to show your feelings when you are with her. Lots of people try to seem strong, but if you need to cry and hold it in it might seem like something else. Anyway, she may get some relief crying along with you. If you hide your feelings, she may feel like she should too. Treasure these last moments with her, keep them open and free and honest. At least that's what seemed right with my mom.
eieio
Reply #20 Sunday, February 22, 2004 10:30 PM
Reply #20 Sunday, February 22, 2004 10:30 PM
I'm sorry to hear this, jarget. It is so hard to see your parent go. Spend time with her. Tell her how you feel. Give her all the love you can. My prayers are with you.
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Reply #1 Sunday, February 22, 2004 2:53 AM