Msgboard Chatroom Marathon
Sunday, January 27, 2002 by Elfkura | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
It's Sunday night, and I'm bored out of my mind. There's much to do, but I'm too lazy to get around to do it. My boyfriend is busying trying to get Visual Studios to work so I can't talk to him on the phone....and we can't seem to talk over the phone anyways...it'll just be silence mostly.
New Semester started........so anyone alive out there to join Elffie in this chat marathon? =P
Let's try not to let this post hang for over 2 hours, hm? =P
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Reply #13342 Monday, October 8, 2007 10:34 AM
When do you plan to get married? Why don't you come back to the US on a fiancee Visa?
It sounds like your parents will never agree with what you are doing. It also sounds like you are going to have to risk being disowned to be happy. With the way it sounds, it is worth risking.
$300,000 to be able to marry you? What the?
Reply #13343 Tuesday, October 9, 2007 5:08 PM
That's also what I'm thinking you should do. And $300,000, who has that type of money other than the really wealthy people? Hell, I only make $30,000 a year and I have a decent job. I'm at Computer Technician at a school. However I live in Altoona, PA and work in Hollidaysburg, PA. If you really want to know the value of the area, you can look up the demographics.
Reply #13344 Saturday, October 13, 2007 10:07 AM
I started a new job that I was forced to take by my parents. It's no close to here at all, and my work hours are 8:15am - 5:00pm with no paid OT. I don't make much from the job. When I say that, I really mean it. My job earns me about as much as a student would on a 5.50/hour wage working 80 hours a month.
I have to wake up at between 5am and 5:30am every morning to get ready for work. I leave by 6:20am because traffic sucks at 7am. I get to work at 7am and I won't start work until 8:15am. On Thursdays, I have to attend a mandatory meeting from 7am to 8am so I have to get to work before 7am.
If I leave work on time at 5pm, I get home sometime between 7 and 7:30pm. I usually take 30 minutes to eat really quick, do the dishes, and clean the kitchen, and take out the trash. That takes up about an hour. Then I take a shower, wash my clothese, rinse them, spin them dry, and then hang them up, which takes about another 40 minutes. Then I have to put the dishes into the baking oven and the leftovers in the fridge, 10 minutes, and then I go upstairs to put some lotion and acne prevention treatment on my face (10-20 minutes). Then I have some time to sit down and read my emails for the first time that day including whatever left over tasks I needed to finish and I spend an hour writing an email to my fiance. By the time I get to bed, it's usually 11pm. I have trouble getting to sleep, so I fall asleep closer to midnight.
I have no access to my personal mail at work, nor to sites like these, not to MSN, and everything else. The only thing left for my fiance and myself is that one hour every single night with nothing but cold words on a computer screen. I thought weekends were going to be available for myself, but that isn't the case.
My mother wanted me to go to work at her office so help her with documents. She asks nicely. She always does. She just doesn't give you the option of saying no because it will come back on her long list of rants about how bloody retarded and useless I am at a later time. Whatever precious little bit of time I have for myself to get things I need (because I'm really sick and tired of eating nothing but ham and cheese sandwiches for lunch) for work is now no more.
My mother's original price was USD 1 million because that's how much it cost her at the minimum to have raised me. She said she was already being generous by cutting that down to 300k - footing only the last 6.5 years.
Reply #13345 Monday, November 26, 2007 11:07 AM
Chocolate World just seems to be dead. Must be hibernation time or everybody is just busy.
Reply #13346 Monday, November 26, 2007 1:13 PM
Reply #13347 Monday, November 26, 2007 7:44 PM
Hi guys,
Exactly a month dating from the last post, I got involved in a world wide conference at work that took place here. I was one of the many people who helped out, and I enjoyed myself immensely. Unfortunately, the conference turned out to be my undoing.
I was actually asked to leave my job posting, so I've got time back again. It's all a rather weird story, really. The conference I spoke of above was from Nov. 14 - 16, and I was out and about on 17th with our international members from Europe and the United States. On Monday, Nov. 19, my boss disappeared from the office to talk to my parents. Apparently my performance before and during the conference (especially during) had vastly surpassed his expectations - which got a lot of people talking and noticing (on a very large scale). While that was good, it was also rather bad.
Someone, or group of someones, started spreading rumors about where I'm from and questioning my merit (whether I was there by merit or by connection and in general everything attached to me). While this was through connection, apparently my merit spoke well of me, so it is by no means something I should be punished for. Unfortunately, that's not how these people think, whoever they are. It would be one thing if these people were attacking me straight on. I could've dealt with that.
They went after my boss instead. That royally pissed me off, but there is nothing I can do about it.
My boss was more worried about me than worried about what's happening to him. He talked to my parents and suggested that I resign. His words were "You've got more potential than most people will think you have. What I have to offer isn't enough for you. You can do a lot better somewhere else. Let me look around and see where I can push you. There are bigger and more exciting opportunities than here."
So I resigned the very next day and left, but happy that I made a very good friend in the progress here and a few actually situated in Europe. While no one except the friend here knows what's going on, I feel I'll rather keep it that way until the events have passed and died down and if anyone was to bring it up again in question.
I have to say... what a ride. I'm just disappointed that it had to end this way.
Reply #13349 Friday, January 18, 2008 6:16 PM
Reply #13352 Sunday, January 27, 2008 12:29 AM
How's everything going?
It's been a while since I've visited and I hope things got better with Elfkura.
Reply #13353 Saturday, September 20, 2008 8:24 PM
I thought I would stop by and revive this from the dead again. It's been a really long time since I've been on WC. How's it going with everybody in the chocolate planet? Any still around?
I'm going to try to stop by more and try to get back into a couple old hobbies I had. It looks like I may have a chance to adapt them to my work (PC Tech). They are thinking about giving me access to work on the website and other things for the school district since I do that on the side (even though it's been a while for that too)....
Talk to you peeps later 
Reply #13354 Sunday, September 21, 2008 3:21 AM
The chocolate planet is dead. It has ceased to be, it is an ex planet. Even the chocolate Fuzzy is no more... 
Reply #13355 Sunday, September 21, 2008 9:11 AM
Fuzzy changed their name to PurrBall, what is this world coming to? People changing their names now 
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I know several people were having some problems at the end, I wonder how they are doing. Elfkura and her big problem, I hope she got out of that and made it back over to the United States. Old Crab and his medical problems.
Life caught up to me. Got married, work most of the day, play World of Warcraft every so often (less then what I was), remodeling my house (taking forever to do), and many other things. It has taken me a while, but I think I'm starting to get things more organized. Get back into the skinning/graphics again, merge with web development and hopefully start getting back into what I used to do.
It would be nice if some of the old inhabitants showed back up.
Reply #13357 Sunday, September 21, 2008 3:38 PM
My bad, it's been a while. I'm reading back in the thread and it seems like one or more changed usernames. Like you Or I'm just losing my mind
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Reply #13341 Monday, October 8, 2007 9:46 AM
First off, to answer your inquiry about my dual degrees, I have graduated from the University of Houston with a BBA in Management and a BA in English-Creative Writing. My business degree was something my parents "wanted" me to have, and the Creative Writing is what I've had as a hobby all my life that served, many times, as a life line to my depression (most of all through college). Needless to say, my English degree means a lot more to me on a personal level, and it inspires me to be more on a professional level. I was hoping to get involved in publishing, which my father humored me with but never really gave me a green light on.
I am engaged (just without the official ring because I can't find one I like) to a man I've known for the better part of a decade (7 years). He told me that after my graduation, I am welcome to move up to his place and take a couple of months off for myself. College had been brutal and my parents caused 70% of it. Since I'm not allowed to work in the US, not many employers would hire me. He asked if I would mind getting married. I said no, because I've been waiting for it for over a year. I went up to visit my fiance right after my graduation without my parents knowing. My parents never let me go anywhere, and if I had asked, I knew what the answer would be. All my friends who knew my fiance told me to go and have fun. I deserved it, regardless of what my parents think.
The short version of this story is that my parents found out about the trip. My mother threatened to sue my fiance for ruining my honor after I've informed her that I've been intimate as well. They said they'll post everything about him all over the internet so the world can know what a
The threat for me is disownment, which I thought was completely unfair to me because they wouldn't even talk about anything first. They won't even let me go to the US anymore unless I give them my word that I would break it off with my fiance, which I told them I wouldn't. I told my fiance everything that happened. When he said he'll be on a flight over as soon as he gets his things in order, I told him to hold down his fort. I wasn't going to send my fiance into a lion's den, and if my parents want to chew on him, they'll have to dig out my beating heart first.
My parents kept telling me how worthless my fiance is because he didn't bother to call or come to apologize and see how he can make up for the bad things that he had done. I told my fiance he doesn't owe my parents an apology nor does he have to make up for anything. My parents will learn, sooner or later, that they're not gods.
Then my mother came up with the dumbest demand I've heard in my life: She wanted my fiance to pay US$300,000 for my freedom to marry me. What was it that my mother said? "That was all the money you spent getting those 2 degrees in the 6.5 years you were in the US. It was a lost investment. He can pay me back and have you all at once."
Right, degrees where one was forced on me and the other I had to fight to get. By the way, the business degree took up 2/3rds of the expenses.
These last 4 months I still talk to him as much as I can although our time together is scarce. I'm still set on marrying him, and he's even more set on marrying me just to get me away from this place and this sort of treatment. I don't think I'll ever find another man quite like this. I'll be stupid to give all this up.
I'm sure many people truly wish they could help. While there are days where I wished I had some friend who could fly in and give my parents a good piece of his/her mind, this isn't anyone's fight but my own. I will never put anyone in my parents' path. The best thing I've ever done in my life was to keep most of my life private from my parents. They don't know who I talk to online, who my friends are, what their names are, and vice verse. I don't want my friends being hunted just because I disappeared, and I plan to, if they keep this treatment up.
I'm working on a blog that will cover all this in more detail where I document what happens. I think this will make a great fiction book some day because I don't think anyone would believe this is real. When it is done, I'll distribute it out to those who would wish to be kept up-to-date. I don't wish to keep returning with what seems like rants and complaints, especially when most of the people here don't know who I am and could probably do without my drama all over the discussion area.
I miss my fiance. I just wish there was a way for me to talk to him more often. I cry about all this every night. I really didn't think that last night I spent with him in May was truly going to be the last. No one here (my family) seems to understand just how much this hurts and how bleak my life is.
How do I keep living from one day to the next knowing that I'll never get to see him, hear him, or hold him until many more months have passed?