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Tuesday, May 25, 2010 by loukeeya | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk

i was gonna post a post about a post post but then i got confused..........

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Wizard1956
Reply #61 Friday, May 28, 2010 7:53 PM

DrJBHL
Reply #62 Friday, May 28, 2010 8:17 PM

Some come here because they are lonely, and don't feel significant in their "real" world. Loving those people, giving them just a tiny bit of what they aren't getting in real life...it costs us nothing.

Sounds like someone who won't be back. Someone who supported the site and the folks here, in all their diversity and while having his opinions about things, generally suppressed the urge to be right for the urge to heal and unite.

vStyler
Reply #63 Friday, May 28, 2010 8:36 PM

Too many backstabbing fair weather friends in this world for my liking, too many people that would rather use a knife to stab you than make you a sandwich. Plus as soon as you dish out a 'little love' they're at your door borrowing sugar or asking for beer or bombarding your inbox with spam. (I'm with Po' on that)

Nothing I enjoy more than cheering someone up, helping someone out or generally doing what I can for the betterment of someone else. Anyone that knows me will not tell anyone differently. However, I am FAR more wary these-days, I tend to pick my friends much more carefully and good friends I believe I treat damn well. I just cannot shower a little love on everyone that might need it. The internet is teaming with people that 'need a little love' Maybe some of them should face book each other or something.    

That aside, I think the shenanigans that went on earlier in this post weren't intended to be a direct assault on anyone, rather, a few of us expressing what we thought about some of the recent postings in general. A want to see this site become more skinning oriented and less about posting nonsense. I mean, a joke is a joke, Humor is all well and good but lets face it, this thread was... nonsense.

No one tried to run anyone off, If the poster felt that way, then for my part I am sorry but this was never about that, more-so an expression of frustration about things in general in these forums.

DrJBHL
Reply #64 Friday, May 28, 2010 8:56 PM

I hate it when I agree with everyone.

Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately, everyone here has said valid things. Part of being in a Community means you acknowledge that everyone is part of it, from the Mayor to the crazy uncle on your porch (yes, I favor The Southern Way over the "warehouses")...and everyone should wave and say hello. It keeps us all human.

Sad to say, I love you all. Even my nemesis, DaveBax.

k10w3
Reply #65 Friday, May 28, 2010 9:12 PM

DrJBHL

Sounds like someone who won't be back. Someone who supported the site and the folks here, in all their diversity and while having his opinions about things, generally suppressed the urge to be right for the urge to heal and unite.


Yes, Seth.  There will always be a big, open void that Ed filled, in only the loving, kind way he could, and this place will never be the same...2010 has been a shitty year of losses.

DrJBHL
Reply #66 Friday, May 28, 2010 9:22 PM

To paraphrase the Talmud, "Where there is no Ed, be thou the Ed."

That's for all of us. Not directed at anyone in particular, but especially to myself. Since I felt such a loss, I wondered why. It was a piece of myself I was missing, or ignoring and at times deliberately spiting. The kinder more loving piece. We all have an Ed inside us to cultivate, love, honor or to ignore, hate and hurt. For me, the choice is obvious. The only way not to miss Ed quite so much is to honor that part of me and be aware of it.

Bebi Bulma
Reply #67 Friday, May 28, 2010 9:45 PM

The internet is teaming with people that 'need a little love' Maybe some of them should face book each other or something.

Hey...what's that supposed to mean?! (emphasis on the specific smilies) You couldn't PAY me to get on failbook.

vStyler
Reply #68 Friday, May 28, 2010 9:51 PM

Just a general Boy \ Girl combo

Bebi Bulma
Reply #69 Friday, May 28, 2010 9:55 PM

Riiiiiight....

PoSmedley
Reply #70 Friday, May 28, 2010 10:07 PM

I dont recall ever seeing a 'Goodbye' post where the person really left. In my opinion, it's just a cry for attention. If I ever leave (yeah, like that's gonna happen) I will not make a post about it, I will just...go.

.and are complete in other aspects of your life. Not everybody here is as blessed as some of the rest of us.

My point exactly when I said there are bigger and/or other issues.  How are we supposed to know? When someone is crying and saying 'farewell' because their 'real' life is incomplete and they can't fill it with what they find 'virtually'. I don't know that the real reason they are saying farewell is because they don't feel accepted at work or their father told them 'You should have been a boy.".   I AM here if thats what they wanna talk about. I AM willing to listen. But there is a big difference between someone who says 'I'm gonna hold my breath til I turn blue , you'll see" and someone who's holding a bottle of pills in one hand and a glass of water in the other.

Just for an example.......John and I have gotten into it over 'crap'. We've gotten sarcastic, we've danced on the edge of a line I don't believe either of us has any desire to cross. Me, because I respect him and his talent. Him, because he knows that I am just that fucking awesome. But in all the dissagreeing between each other and whoever sides with the other (and most side with me because I really am that fucking awesome) , we don't  threaten to leave. And I am sure we both (him more than me) have our own damn baggage and personal issues.  Now, take someone like Jafo whose sole puprose (well, it seems like it to me sometimes) is to be abused, disagreed with, called names, be ridiculed, etc., etc. Now THERE is someone who has earned the right to post a great big giant 'Fuck You All And The Brush You Rode In On' post. But he keeps on dishing it out. Hell, he has the ability to BAN! And he doesn't abuse that!

If a person has issues in the real world and those issues are going to dictate their behavior in the virtual world (with or without their knowledge) , they should be aware of them. If someone else makes a comment that hurts them, maybe it's because something they thought they could escape from  isn't gonna just  not exist because they are in a  virtual world. Everyone else is bringing their baggage to. Some just have better control over it. You couldn't pull a farewell post at a lot of 'jobs' because they would show you the door.  In the real world, even friends, associates, AND family get tired of EMPTY threats and having to soothe an ego that has more self-inflicted, internal, and outdated issues than have to do with the topic at hand. Sooner or later, you have to pull yourself up at least half-way by your own bootstraps.

All of this was over ONE post. Not constant abuse. Not abuse from a majority of the community, or from a majority of the mods or admins.  It's because the intent and appropriateness of the post was 'questioned'. And by three or four people out of what?...over three million members? And of those that 'questioned' the post...are they GOOD friends whose opinions are valued? Are they consulted every morning before decisions are made for the rest of the day? What fucking weight do they carry? Hell, I stopped giving my own mother that much power over me when I was 20.

Finally, though my daughter has not actually thumped her head on the floor, she knows what a pussy I am when she turns on the tears. I love her. I have gotten off of my tired ass when it was the last thing in the world I felt like doing because I would rather that than see her cry. She knows this and knows how to play me. But she is three. You can only reason so far and so much with a three year old that cannot comprehend the intricate 'why's' and 'how's'. As she matures, she will understand and comprehend more and more will be expected of her. The tears will always hurt me, but they will not always work on me the way she wants them to, and THAT she will learn as well.

Jafo
Reply #71 Friday, May 28, 2010 10:55 PM

You couldn't PAY me to get on failbook.

You could pay me...and I'd endure it.... but otherwise it will eventually be universally known as a pox upon society.

vStyler
Reply #72 Friday, May 28, 2010 11:22 PM

Isn't it already?

 

I only have one to detour all my spam there.  

 

Iben
Reply #73 Sunday, May 30, 2010 2:05 PM

~
I've Learned that
If you are just that awesome
you can use the F bomb.
~

Snowman
Reply #74 Sunday, May 30, 2010 2:59 PM

In my experience the "good bye, I'm leaving" posts are usually written in the hope that someone will try to talk them out of it.

Xiandi
I dont recall ever seeing a 'Goodbye' post where the person really left. In my opinion, it's just a cry for attention. If I ever leave (yeah, like that's gonna happen) I will not make a post about it, I will just...go.

If you're going to go, don't go mad/crybaby style, just... go.

RedneckDude
Reply #75 Sunday, May 30, 2010 5:48 PM

Just a general Boy \ Girl combo

Now John.....

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