Be ever vigilant...
I mean it...
Tuesday, September 25, 2007 by vStyler | Discussion: Community
If ever any of you think that it's ok to let your child walk out the door without asking where their going or who they will be with... think again...
Two days ago... my eldest son..of 3 (17)... walked out.."back in a few Dad" 30 minutes later I had the Police department calling me... the picture I think speaks for itself but I should tell you..
He was thrown through a window by an intoxicated 36 year old that just happened to show up at one of his young friend's houses to start trouble with their parents...
The result..? for him? Scarred for life..badly it seems, who know's mentally what the damage is...
For me... I havent slept since it happened and doubt I will ANY time soon...
The guy was arrested but shortly threreafter bailed out by his Mother. I don't intend to seek retribution as I believe the law should work for the people but I will say.. (and I have never met this guy)..BUT..If I ever do.. I WILL kill him, given the opportunity.
Again... watch after your babies.. no matter how tough they think they are and do anything you can to fight violence \ abuse in your immediate surroundings.
Thanks for letting me vent... this post was preceeded by tears but had to be posted to someone for my own sanity.
V.
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Philly0381
Reply #22 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 10:46 AM
Reply #22 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 10:46 AM
No amount of words can ever remove the pain you had to endure. Not being a parent myself I can't imagine the emotions that came over and went through you and your family.
My prayers go out to your son, you and your family. I light a candle for you family in the hope that all works out and your son recovers form this.
My prayers go out to your son, you and your family. I light a candle for you family in the hope that all works out and your son recovers form this.
RoseNell
Reply #24 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:05 AM
Reply #24 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:05 AM
John how awful.. The pictures are worth a thousand words. I know your frustrations and anger as a parent. And cp I am so sorry about your son. Life is sure not fair somtimes and we wonder why these things happen. Curtis is right. There are NO words to help your hurt and pain you both feel. I just want you to know my good thoughts and prayers are coming your way to both of you.
You really have to be courageous to be a parent. I know... We lost our dear daughter from cancer two years ago.. Never easy.. Only time helps.............I also stand strong behind you....
You really have to be courageous to be a parent. I know... We lost our dear daughter from cancer two years ago.. Never easy.. Only time helps.............I also stand strong behind you....
unclerob
Reply #25 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:05 AM
Curtis, I totally agree with you, there is no such thing as being over-protective.
These days violence seems to be over the top, kids don't just get into fights, they try to kill each other. And there's no excuse for that 36 year old loser to beat up on your kid V, I hope the authorities act on this and I hope that bum serves some decent jail time for what he did to your boy. I saw that pic you provided and it scared the heck out of me, my kids are little and I'm afraid for them now and even more afraid thinking about how it will be when they're older and if situations like these will happen to them. Hearing that this 36yr old's mom bailed him out makes me even angrier, she obviously has no idea about how to help her kid even if he's an adult. I definitely wouldn't have made bail for my kid if he did this to somebody else in a drunk rage - I would have let him sit in the can with no access to any type of substance abuse and made him think about how much he hurt that other person.
People nowadays have no idea about responsibility for action, the system doesn't make it any better, after charges are pressed and even if this jerk gets sentenced for what he did, the sentence will be less than what should be for his actions and he'll no doubt get out early with "good behavior".
V, you have a right to feel the way you do - you're a parent and you have a right to protect your children. If you can look at this way (and it's difficult to do so, I'm sure), You are lucky you weren't there when it happened, you probably would have messed that punk up something serious and you would have been charged with what happened and who knows how the law would deal with your actions regardless of the situation. That punk is lucky too, I know if it were me I would have made him sorry for what he did to my kid.
I couldn't even imagine what I would be feeling in your spot right now - I don't even want to.
Reply #25 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:05 AM
2007 there's no such thing as "over-protective."
Curtis, I totally agree with you, there is no such thing as being over-protective.
These days violence seems to be over the top, kids don't just get into fights, they try to kill each other. And there's no excuse for that 36 year old loser to beat up on your kid V, I hope the authorities act on this and I hope that bum serves some decent jail time for what he did to your boy. I saw that pic you provided and it scared the heck out of me, my kids are little and I'm afraid for them now and even more afraid thinking about how it will be when they're older and if situations like these will happen to them. Hearing that this 36yr old's mom bailed him out makes me even angrier, she obviously has no idea about how to help her kid even if he's an adult. I definitely wouldn't have made bail for my kid if he did this to somebody else in a drunk rage - I would have let him sit in the can with no access to any type of substance abuse and made him think about how much he hurt that other person.
People nowadays have no idea about responsibility for action, the system doesn't make it any better, after charges are pressed and even if this jerk gets sentenced for what he did, the sentence will be less than what should be for his actions and he'll no doubt get out early with "good behavior".
V, you have a right to feel the way you do - you're a parent and you have a right to protect your children. If you can look at this way (and it's difficult to do so, I'm sure), You are lucky you weren't there when it happened, you probably would have messed that punk up something serious and you would have been charged with what happened and who knows how the law would deal with your actions regardless of the situation. That punk is lucky too, I know if it were me I would have made him sorry for what he did to my kid.
I couldn't even imagine what I would be feeling in your spot right now - I don't even want to.
unclerob
Reply #26 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:10 AM
Reply #26 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:10 AM
Curtis you have my respect and deepest sympathies - I'm sorry to hear what happened to your boy, no parent should ever have to see their kids get hurt. I'm sure your boy is tough as nails just like you, you guys can be strong for each other and help each other cope.
Chef Garry
Reply #27 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 12:58 PM
Reply #27 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 12:58 PM
My thoughts are with you and your son. God bless.
mrSkope
Reply #28 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 1:16 PM
Reply #28 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 1:16 PM
Absolutely shocking!! My prayers are with you and your son. Coming from Northern Ireland, I grew up with all that violence crap, its like people dont realise OR care of the hurt they inflict on other people, its a ****ing disgrace 
..anyways, i hope your son makes a full and speedy recovery.
..anyways, i hope your son makes a full and speedy recovery.
I.R. Brainiac
Reply #29 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 1:20 PM
Reply #29 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 1:20 PM
Just keep in mind John,that guy will be somebodies girlfriend soon. 
Leo the Lion
Reply #30 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:03 PM
Reply #30 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:03 PM
John, I have worked in law enforcement and security for most of my life. I have helped many victims and also put some pretty bad bastards away behind bars during this time - some, thankfully, will never see the light of day, for the rest of their lives. Just keep you head up and focus your mind on your son and his needs - both physically and mentally - for now. I know it's easy for me to say but put your feelings towards what that idiot did to your son, to one side, and let justice take it's course. Whatever happens to him via the police or courts may not satisfy you or your family but people like him always get their 'come upence' sometime during their lives and I am a firm believer of the saying 'what goes around comes around'. I, too, have children and another one coming in a couple of weeks so I also know how it feels from a parents perspective too.
Just keep you chin up and look after your son and try put any thoughts of revenge out of your head. Take care.
Just keep you chin up and look after your son and try put any thoughts of revenge out of your head. Take care.
vStyler
Reply #31 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:24 PM
Reply #31 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:24 PM
Thanks everyone for being there for me and I wanted to apologize to Curtis for my response last night I was tired and out of it, Curtis it seems you experienced far worse and words obviously cannot express how what you went \ go through so I'll just say I'm sorry it happened and know that you deal with it in your own way...the best you can.
cplair
Reply #32 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:47 PM
From the bottom of my heart I appreciate that John!
This isn't about me my dear friend. Your family has been dealt an unecessary and rather foul blow! Lots of community members are at you and your son's side right now, thoughts, prayers and blessings!
What I'm getting at here is, I truly know how you feel, not saying that my situation is far worse. I hope to God know one is dealt what happened to my son.
You are 100% correct with wanting to protect your children, and I stand by that 100% dude.
This is a side of me that know one really knows, and I try not to show it. But I deal with these thoughts and memories every single day and never really talked about it.
Until now.
So, I'll say it again my brother, I'm right there with you. That's all I'm saying.
I'm your friend John, and being my friend, you never have to apologize to me for getting something off your chest, or for being tired at 2:30 in the morning. And as your friend, I'll always be there to listen.
But yeah, you needed to know about Curtis Jr. And if your son after he heals, feels that he's still bullet-proof as most teenagers do, let him read this!
<--Here's to you John, you are a wonderful person and a good man!-->
Reply #32 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 3:47 PM
Thanks everyone for being there for me and I wanted to apologize to Curtis for my response last night I was tired and out of it, Curtis it seems you experienced far worse and words obviously cannot express how what you went \ go through so I'll just say I'm sorry it happened and know that you deal with it in your own way...the best you can.
From the bottom of my heart I appreciate that John!
This isn't about me my dear friend. Your family has been dealt an unecessary and rather foul blow! Lots of community members are at you and your son's side right now, thoughts, prayers and blessings!
What I'm getting at here is, I truly know how you feel, not saying that my situation is far worse. I hope to God know one is dealt what happened to my son.
You are 100% correct with wanting to protect your children, and I stand by that 100% dude.
This is a side of me that know one really knows, and I try not to show it. But I deal with these thoughts and memories every single day and never really talked about it.
Until now.
So, I'll say it again my brother, I'm right there with you. That's all I'm saying.
I'm your friend John, and being my friend, you never have to apologize to me for getting something off your chest, or for being tired at 2:30 in the morning. And as your friend, I'll always be there to listen.
But yeah, you needed to know about Curtis Jr. And if your son after he heals, feels that he's still bullet-proof as most teenagers do, let him read this!
<--Here's to you John, you are a wonderful person and a good man!-->
sViz
Reply #33 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 4:34 PM
Reply #33 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 4:34 PM
This is horrible and I'm so sorry this happened to your family. 
My heart goes out to you and yours. I wish you, your son, and your family all the strength and fortitude to heal in time.
My heart goes out to you and yours. I wish you, your son, and your family all the strength and fortitude to heal in time.
basj
Reply #34 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 5:42 PM
Reply #34 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 5:42 PM
John, its horrible to hear about it while we on MSN last time, it get worst when I saw that cuts and bruisers on your kid. No kid should go thru that ever. The bright side of this is now your kid will be more careful next time around and I hope that SOB would get what is coming for him soon one way or another.
Take care buddy, my prayers for your kids and family.
No kid should go thru that ever. The bright side of this is now your kid will be more careful next time around and I hope that SOB would get what is coming for him soon one way or another. Take care buddy, my prayers for your kids and family.
NightTrainthedark
Reply #35 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 5:54 PM
Reply #35 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 5:54 PM
Just give me a call when you are looking to form the posse V.
seldomseen
Reply #36 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 7:14 PM
...lots of abandoned mineshafts hereabouts...watch your step...
appreciate a call myself...
Reply #36 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 7:14 PM
give me a call when you are looking to form the posse
...lots of abandoned mineshafts hereabouts...watch your step...
appreciate a call myself...
messiah1
Reply #37 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:25 PM
Reply #37 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 11:25 PM
Damn man...I'm late on this but I want to let you know that I feel for you and your boy...I've got four of my own, young yet but I pity ANYONE that would ever lay a hand on my children in any unfitting way...they better pray that the cops find them first (you don't want to be hunted by a Marine). You can set your watch and warrant on that.
Tell your boy I send my heartfelt sympathy you guys' way.
Tell your boy I send my heartfelt sympathy you guys' way.
Excalpius
Reply #38 Wednesday, September 26, 2007 2:06 AM
Reply #38 Wednesday, September 26, 2007 2:06 AM
And remember, you can also file a civil suit and make this scumbag pay for the rest of his life, in addition to whatever the legal system deems appropriate.
seldomseen
Reply #39 Monday, October 1, 2007 11:11 PM
Reply #39 Monday, October 1, 2007 11:11 PM
Just checking in. Wondering how it's all going. Sending a lot of thoughts your way. Daily and more.
vStyler
Reply #40 Monday, October 1, 2007 11:16 PM
Reply #40 Monday, October 1, 2007 11:16 PM
Doing better, in school and running about... I'll post some new pics when the stiches some out.
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Reply #21 Tuesday, September 25, 2007 10:46 AM