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NightTrainthedark
Reply #102 Thursday, November 17, 2005 5:22 AM
Reply #102 Thursday, November 17, 2005 5:22 AM
Persistence is the twin sister of excellence. One is a matter of quality; the other, a matter of time.
Marabel Morgan
Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken a word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and our thoughts, as well as our success.
George Matthew Adams
Marabel Morgan
Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken a word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and our thoughts, as well as our success.
George Matthew Adams
artweasloh
Reply #104 Thursday, November 17, 2005 6:13 AM
Reply #104 Thursday, November 17, 2005 6:13 AM
Something positive? Hmmm, let me think of it...............aha!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
well, that is Advance Merry Christmas
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
well, that is Advance Merry Christmas
starkers
Reply #105 Thursday, November 17, 2005 1:24 PM
Reply #105 Thursday, November 17, 2005 1:24 PM
Hi folks, I'm finding it rather difficult to say anything positive right now, but I believe in the power of positive thinking and hope you'd all lend me some of yours during a crisis my wife and I are currently facing.
My 15yo stepdaughter ran away 3 days ago and refuses to come home because we do not approve of a recent decision would not allow her to do as she saw fit. Without going into detail, the authorities are not prepared to lift a finger to help us bring her home, despite proven concerns of inappropriate acquaintances and behaviour.
We have been been told there's nothing they can do and we'll just have to wait it out. We feel totally helpless because the law has wrongfully assigned the child responsibilities.....the right to make her own decisions, essentially stripping us of parental controls and our ability to protect her.
We're trying to remain positive, but it's not easy under the circumstances, so a bit more power from a bit of 'collective' positive thinking would be greatly appreciated.
My 15yo stepdaughter ran away 3 days ago and refuses to come home because we do not approve of a recent decision would not allow her to do as she saw fit. Without going into detail, the authorities are not prepared to lift a finger to help us bring her home, despite proven concerns of inappropriate acquaintances and behaviour.
We have been been told there's nothing they can do and we'll just have to wait it out. We feel totally helpless because the law has wrongfully assigned the child responsibilities.....the right to make her own decisions, essentially stripping us of parental controls and our ability to protect her.
We're trying to remain positive, but it's not easy under the circumstances, so a bit more power from a bit of 'collective' positive thinking would be greatly appreciated.
Sleeping Dragon
Reply #107 Thursday, November 17, 2005 1:54 PM
Reply #107 Thursday, November 17, 2005 1:54 PM
I feel for you, Starkers. I hope she will learn a lesson and come home quickly by her own decision. Keep us posted.
aimzzz
Reply #108 Thursday, November 17, 2005 2:02 PM
Reply #108 Thursday, November 17, 2005 2:02 PM
Starkers, I am praying for you, your wife and your daughter.
NightTrainthedark
Reply #109 Thursday, November 17, 2005 4:10 PM
Reply #109 Thursday, November 17, 2005 4:10 PM
I hope all the positive energy from this thread finds its way to your family Starkers.
scorpio-logic
Reply #110 Thursday, November 17, 2005 4:47 PM
Reply #110 Thursday, November 17, 2005 4:47 PM
Don't worry yourself to death, my friend! You keep that positive thinking up. When you talk to your daughter next, make sure that she knows that you love her and are concerned for her, but don't be too parental. If she feels you are forcing her to return, she may never listen. I know it's hard. Give her a little time to make her choice correctly, don't tell her she is wrong. Only show support. Tell her you have hopes that she will return home soon. Ask her if she has any needs. Maybe she will feel homesick. But for sure, the best thing to do is give support, even though you do not agree with her choices. I hope things turn out well for you, I will keep you and yours in my heart and mind.
starkers
Reply #111 Thursday, November 17, 2005 8:49 PM
Reply #111 Thursday, November 17, 2005 8:49 PM
Thanks to everyone for their support and best wishes, it is much appreciated. That's what makes this community so great, the wonderful people who are supportive and caring of others.
Anyway, after getting less than 2 hours sleep, I was awoken this morning by a couple of detectives who are going to do what they can to help. These officers have a little more influence than their uniformed colleagues and will use that to hopefully resolve the situation. Finally, our persistent pleas for assistance have been answered. They make no promises but claim a high success rate in reuniting runaways with their families. Fingers and toes crossed.
Anyway, after getting less than 2 hours sleep, I was awoken this morning by a couple of detectives who are going to do what they can to help. These officers have a little more influence than their uniformed colleagues and will use that to hopefully resolve the situation. Finally, our persistent pleas for assistance have been answered. They make no promises but claim a high success rate in reuniting runaways with their families. Fingers and toes crossed.
HG_Eliminator
Reply #112 Thursday, November 17, 2005 9:17 PM
Reply #112 Thursday, November 17, 2005 9:17 PM
good luck starkers.. my thoughts are with ya
starkers
Reply #113 Thursday, November 17, 2005 11:18 PM
Reply #113 Thursday, November 17, 2005 11:18 PM
Thanks, HG...I'm quietly confident that things will work out for the best...it's the waiting and feeling helpless that's the hardest right now.
Also, thanks for your words of wisdom, scorpio logic, they're much appreciated. We are trying to be loving and caring parents, rather than judgemental disciplinarians, but it's difficult to support a decision that's fraught with serious consequences. It's not that she's a bad kid, but right now she hates me because I intervened in an arrangement she had rightfully been forbidden to make. However, I'm not concerned as to whether she hates me or not, just that she's safe and well....not in harms way.
It's quite likely that she'll become home-sick, and when the detectives convey our thoughts and feelings, that we're concerned not angry, she will want to come home to where it's safe and her bread's best buttered.
Again, thank you to everyone....youre good people
Also, thanks for your words of wisdom, scorpio logic, they're much appreciated. We are trying to be loving and caring parents, rather than judgemental disciplinarians, but it's difficult to support a decision that's fraught with serious consequences. It's not that she's a bad kid, but right now she hates me because I intervened in an arrangement she had rightfully been forbidden to make. However, I'm not concerned as to whether she hates me or not, just that she's safe and well....not in harms way.
It's quite likely that she'll become home-sick, and when the detectives convey our thoughts and feelings, that we're concerned not angry, she will want to come home to where it's safe and her bread's best buttered.
Again, thank you to everyone....youre good people
NightTrainthedark
Reply #114 Friday, November 18, 2005 6:16 AM
Reply #114 Friday, November 18, 2005 6:16 AM
It is Friday here. It doesn't get much better than that. 
Lantec
Reply #115 Friday, November 18, 2005 6:57 AM
Saturday?
Reply #115 Friday, November 18, 2005 6:57 AM
| It is Friday here. It doesn't get much better than that. |
Saturday?
starkers
Reply #118 Friday, November 18, 2005 9:36 PM
Thanks, NT....still no news as yet, but they say no news is good news. It has been a week now, and we're hoping the comforts of home are becoming more and more attractive as time goes by. She'll most likely come home with her tail between her legs when the people she's trusting let her down and going gets too tough out there.
The detectives have just advised that first thing Monday we need to take out a restraining order against a certain individual...the reasoning being that it gives them the teeth to act, and once they've intervened, she'll have no reason to stay away and will come home voluntarily. Given the circumstances, I find it totally ridiculous that we are being made responsible to enable law enforcement, but if that's what it takes, then so be it.
Also, I'd like to apologise for raising the issue here and hijacking the thread. It seemed at the time, with it's 'positive outlook', an appropriate place to get some of it off my chest, so to speak.
Oh well, all's well that ends well, and I'm sure this will.
Reply #118 Friday, November 18, 2005 9:36 PM
| Bumped for Starker's sake. |
Thanks, NT....still no news as yet, but they say no news is good news. It has been a week now, and we're hoping the comforts of home are becoming more and more attractive as time goes by. She'll most likely come home with her tail between her legs when the people she's trusting let her down and going gets too tough out there.
The detectives have just advised that first thing Monday we need to take out a restraining order against a certain individual...the reasoning being that it gives them the teeth to act, and once they've intervened, she'll have no reason to stay away and will come home voluntarily. Given the circumstances, I find it totally ridiculous that we are being made responsible to enable law enforcement, but if that's what it takes, then so be it.
Also, I'd like to apologise for raising the issue here and hijacking the thread. It seemed at the time, with it's 'positive outlook', an appropriate place to get some of it off my chest, so to speak.
Oh well, all's well that ends well, and I'm sure this will.
starkers
Reply #119 Sunday, November 20, 2005 1:46 AM
Thanks, SD....just a bit of an update! My wife has some Salvation Army Officer friends who today offered to help us resolve the situation, given their experiences with runaways and the homeless, etc. One of these officers knows our daughter quite well and is confident she can help us reach a happy conclusion for us all through their friendly association, gentle persuasion and mediation, if required.
This is certainly good news, and now that we've been given an idea as to where she is staying, we are feeling a little more positive that she'll happily return home, all safe and sound.
Reply #119 Sunday, November 20, 2005 1:46 AM
| I feel for you, Starkers. I hope she will learn a lesson and come home quickly by her own decision. Keep us posted. |
Thanks, SD....just a bit of an update! My wife has some Salvation Army Officer friends who today offered to help us resolve the situation, given their experiences with runaways and the homeless, etc. One of these officers knows our daughter quite well and is confident she can help us reach a happy conclusion for us all through their friendly association, gentle persuasion and mediation, if required.
This is certainly good news, and now that we've been given an idea as to where she is staying, we are feeling a little more positive that she'll happily return home, all safe and sound.
Cynder-Elluh
Reply #120 Sunday, November 20, 2005 2:10 AM
Reply #120 Sunday, November 20, 2005 2:10 AM
Safe and sound are two of the most perfect words ever strung together!
Sounds like really positive news! So happy for you and your family!
Children can break your heart and your mind and then your heart grows back even stronger! And these same children grow up to be perfectly wonderful!
On that positive note, my new life starts on the 1st of Dec. and I can't wait! I feel like a kid, myself!
Sounds like really positive news! So happy for you and your family!
Children can break your heart and your mind and then your heart grows back even stronger!
And these same children grow up to be perfectly wonderful! On that positive note, my new life starts on the 1st of Dec. and I can't wait! I feel like a kid, myself!
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