Anyone recently have a Birthday?
Monday, March 24, 2003 by The Rated PG | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
Happy Birthday to you if you have 
Mine was yesterday. 29 
Mine was yesterday. 29 
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goodmorphing
Reply #82 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:28 PM
Reply #82 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:28 PM
Goodnight, Mr. Gupps. I think you have the kind of 'people brightness' that you just can't measure. And I think, given the chance, you will do well!
Doreen
Reply #83 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:29 PM
Reply #83 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:29 PM
MrGupps yes it's your life and your decision but don't be so selfish you don't stop to think about the ppl that love you cuz they are the ones that pick up your tab when you check out, and are left feeling even worser emotions then you are currently feeling and if you love them at all consider them mainly...
Take care and remember school is only temporary!
it does not last forever
Take care and remember school is only temporary!
it does not last forever
MrGupps
Reply #84 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:38 PM
Reply #84 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:38 PM
school doesn't last 4eva, however it's influence on the rest of ur life (college job etc)does. The decisions i make in high school will effect me the rest of my life
goodmorphing
Reply #85 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:45 PM
Reply #85 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:45 PM
They surely will, MrGupps. You are already asking the kind of questions I didn't ask until much, much later. Since you are starting to see so clearly, so young... well, that impresses me! I have faith in you.
Jafo
Reply #86 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 12:22 AM
Reply #86 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 12:22 AM
Nothing is actually important in schooling and/or education in general.
It is merely a frustrating stage in life's experiences.
Whatever benefit you get out of it, irrespective of scores or grades or whatever is exactly its worth.
You will learn/are learning far more important 'life skills' in a school than 'Algebra' will EVER benefit you.
No-one needs or deserves 'pressure' to succeed....FROM ANYONE.
If parents 'think' they know what is good or bad for you it should be seen as no more than the guidance of experience....though it will always be your OWN mistakes from which you learn best.
Bottom line.
Nothing matters more than life, and living it.
The longer you do, the more you appreciate it and the opportunities it gives to share parts of it with others.
Success is not measured by what College you go to, or what grades you get, but by how many people are, or become willing to share your friendship.
If your parents are doing the 'pushing', let them also pay for the 'shrink' sessions. That's fair, don't you think?
Apart from all that, Karmagirl posted some links.
Visit them...
It is merely a frustrating stage in life's experiences.
Whatever benefit you get out of it, irrespective of scores or grades or whatever is exactly its worth.
You will learn/are learning far more important 'life skills' in a school than 'Algebra' will EVER benefit you.
No-one needs or deserves 'pressure' to succeed....FROM ANYONE.
If parents 'think' they know what is good or bad for you it should be seen as no more than the guidance of experience....though it will always be your OWN mistakes from which you learn best.
Bottom line.
Nothing matters more than life, and living it.
The longer you do, the more you appreciate it and the opportunities it gives to share parts of it with others.
Success is not measured by what College you go to, or what grades you get, but by how many people are, or become willing to share your friendship.
If your parents are doing the 'pushing', let them also pay for the 'shrink' sessions. That's fair, don't you think?
Apart from all that, Karmagirl posted some links.
Visit them...
KarmaGirl
Reply #88 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 10:05 AM
Reply #88 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 10:05 AM
MrGupps, did you read what I wrote about college? I'll repeat it again:
I was kicked out of college. Failed. outta there. Did it ruin my life? Hell no! And, that one bad grade won't ruin yours, either.
You are basically saying that your life is not worth living because you got one lousy grade. If you think that is logical thought, then you haven't thought it through.
I work at Stardock (the company that owns this site) and I have a great life (happily married for almost 7 years, have a 4 year old daughter and work at a great company).
The point is- the school that you end up going to is not going to make your future. *YOU* make your future. You control your destiny. If you have faith in yourself, and know that you want to do great thing, you will do great things no matter what obstacles come in your way.
The best example I can think of is Bill Gates. He dropped out of college to start his own business. Obviously it wasn't the school that controlled his destiny. *He* controlled it.
You are young. Have fun with being young. You have all the time in the world to worry about jobs and crap. Enjoy school and your friends. And in the end, it will be those friends that will mean most to you. Not the grades, not the school you get into, and not the job.
I have faith in you. And, I hope that you can find faith in yourself, too. Just don't ask me for help in math...I'm not so very good in it!
I was kicked out of college. Failed. outta there. Did it ruin my life? Hell no! And, that one bad grade won't ruin yours, either.
You are basically saying that your life is not worth living because you got one lousy grade. If you think that is logical thought, then you haven't thought it through.
I work at Stardock (the company that owns this site) and I have a great life (happily married for almost 7 years, have a 4 year old daughter and work at a great company).
The point is- the school that you end up going to is not going to make your future. *YOU* make your future. You control your destiny. If you have faith in yourself, and know that you want to do great thing, you will do great things no matter what obstacles come in your way.
The best example I can think of is Bill Gates. He dropped out of college to start his own business. Obviously it wasn't the school that controlled his destiny. *He* controlled it.
You are young. Have fun with being young. You have all the time in the world to worry about jobs and crap. Enjoy school and your friends. And in the end, it will be those friends that will mean most to you. Not the grades, not the school you get into, and not the job.
I have faith in you. And, I hope that you can find faith in yourself, too. Just don't ask me for help in math...I'm not so very good in it!
MrGupps
Reply #89 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 3:25 PM
Reply #89 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 3:25 PM
i understand, an example like Bill Gates comes along once in a million (lets hope im that million) I also want to say with pride "I graduated from Yale!" But thats not gonna happen. Karma girl im happy for u, u got lucky.
Unfortunately adults have no idea how hard being a kid has become. The amount of stress i go through is beyond my coping skills
Unfortunately adults have no idea how hard being a kid has become. The amount of stress i go through is beyond my coping skills
KarmaGirl
Reply #90 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 3:55 PM
Reply #90 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 3:55 PM
MrGupps, I'm not that old, and I can easily remember being 13. Being an adult has a lot of stress involved to (think about being the one responsible for paying the bills and such).
A "title" (Like I graduated from *fill in the blank*) isn't as glamorous as it sounds. It may seem like it is now, but it really isn't. And, a lot of employers don't even care where you graduate from or what grades you got. They just care that you have a degree and that you have the personal drive to succeed.
And, if you can ever make the statement that something is beyond your coping skills, then you seriously need to speak to somebody. And that is across the board no matter how old you are. There should be no time in your life that you feel that way. Every generation of kid says "it's hard to be a kid". I know, I said it too. But, trust me, it's only hard because you are making it that way. relax. have fun with your young life. You're over thinking stuff. Talk to somebody about your thoughts, it will help.
A "title" (Like I graduated from *fill in the blank*) isn't as glamorous as it sounds. It may seem like it is now, but it really isn't. And, a lot of employers don't even care where you graduate from or what grades you got. They just care that you have a degree and that you have the personal drive to succeed.
And, if you can ever make the statement that something is beyond your coping skills, then you seriously need to speak to somebody. And that is across the board no matter how old you are. There should be no time in your life that you feel that way. Every generation of kid says "it's hard to be a kid". I know, I said it too. But, trust me, it's only hard because you are making it that way. relax. have fun with your young life. You're over thinking stuff. Talk to somebody about your thoughts, it will help.
Wommers
Reply #91 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 6:59 PM
Reply #91 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 6:59 PM
i think it may take a few years for anyone recently having a birthday to peek over their desk to be able to respond to your question. personally, i havent had 1 since 1959.
personally, i havent had 1 since 1959.
Wommers
Reply #93 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:14 PM
Reply #93 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:14 PM
just having fun jafo...ya gotta have a sense of humor, right?
Wommers
Reply #94 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:18 PM
Reply #94 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:18 PM
besides, i have a short attention span and sausage fingers so i only like short responses to message boards. therefore i don't like to get too cerebral here.
goodmorphing
Reply #95 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:27 PM
Reply #95 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:27 PM
Um.... Mr. Gupps... I know you are fairly perceptive, so I think you will get the gist of what I am going to say to you.
You say..."The amount of stress i go through is beyond my coping skills
" and I am wondering if you have any idea at all of the number of the world who either cannot see that, or deny it? Just look around at all the people whose lives have been ruined by dependence on alcohol and/or drugs. You, on the other hand, at 13-years-of-age look clearly at your life and see what you see and have the guts to vocalize it!
Now, it occurs to me to wonder... yeah, he can see it but does he have the guts to do something constructive with it? You see, if you have this problem you are among good company. It seems to me that you can act proactive and do something about it now and escape the quagmire that many, many poor souls are caught in.... or you can cop out on yourself and cast your fate with those who have failed to do that. The worst are easy to spot... they live on the streets of nearly every American city. Ah, I see you are thinking you have the perfect solution, but I know from working for long periods in Intensive Care Units and hospital Emergency Departments that when you start stepping that direction you are statistically bound to undergo years of distress... some attempts, and some that may actually lower your IQ!
As I said before, I see that you have more potential and more fight in you than that. Don't look down on mental health care workers. For that matter, don't look down on people who are perceptive enough in this world to feel deeply about the entire situation and who are brave enough to look outward for help. In my experience, both as a professional and a consumer, those people are some of the creme of the crop. And if you still cannot bring yourself to talk about this stuff directly with professionals in that field, it has long been my happy experience that teachers and counselors have a lot of answers. Mostly you can find what you want tangentally... and in the long run come out of the deal not only with better understanding, but also with darn good letters of recommendation that any Ivy League college would be a fool not to consider. THEY WANT PEOPLE WHO ASK QUESTIONS, SEEK ANSWERS, and ACT PROACTIVELY!
You say..."The amount of stress i go through is beyond my coping skills
" and I am wondering if you have any idea at all of the number of the world who either cannot see that, or deny it? Just look around at all the people whose lives have been ruined by dependence on alcohol and/or drugs. You, on the other hand, at 13-years-of-age look clearly at your life and see what you see and have the guts to vocalize it!
Now, it occurs to me to wonder... yeah, he can see it but does he have the guts to do something constructive with it? You see, if you have this problem you are among good company. It seems to me that you can act proactive and do something about it now and escape the quagmire that many, many poor souls are caught in.... or you can cop out on yourself and cast your fate with those who have failed to do that. The worst are easy to spot... they live on the streets of nearly every American city. Ah, I see you are thinking you have the perfect solution, but I know from working for long periods in Intensive Care Units and hospital Emergency Departments that when you start stepping that direction you are statistically bound to undergo years of distress... some attempts, and some that may actually lower your IQ!As I said before, I see that you have more potential and more fight in you than that. Don't look down on mental health care workers. For that matter, don't look down on people who are perceptive enough in this world to feel deeply about the entire situation and who are brave enough to look outward for help. In my experience, both as a professional and a consumer, those people are some of the creme of the crop. And if you still cannot bring yourself to talk about this stuff directly with professionals in that field, it has long been my happy experience that teachers and counselors have a lot of answers. Mostly you can find what you want tangentally... and in the long run come out of the deal not only with better understanding, but also with darn good letters of recommendation that any Ivy League college would be a fool not to consider. THEY WANT PEOPLE WHO ASK QUESTIONS, SEEK ANSWERS, and ACT PROACTIVELY!
goodmorphing
Reply #96 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:30 PM
Reply #96 Wednesday, March 26, 2003 7:30 PM
goodmorphing steps down off her soap-box, dusts it off, and heads on down the message board.
sorry... I know you probably didn't need a lecture right now.
sorry... I know you probably didn't need a lecture right now.
MouseGoddess
Reply #97 Thursday, March 27, 2003 2:50 AM
Reply #97 Thursday, March 27, 2003 2:50 AM
I have to put my 2 cents worth in here for MrGupps. In my life I have started and run 4 businesses. I have had people apply for jobs and say (with pride) I graduated from Yale, or whatever their school happened to be. How impressed was I by this? NOT AT ALL! I wanted to know only one thing--Can you DO this job? Are you qualified, well dressed, well spoken? Then the collage (or even lack of) is not pertinent!
And cheer up! Life is a challenge, enjoy everything it has to offer, even if it's just listening to the birds sing on Sunday morning. Don't miss the beauty life holds. Laugh. Love. Take time to look around and YES, smell the roses! And remember, people have whispered to loved ones "I'm so glad you were in my life", but NO ONE has ever said "Gee, I sure wish I'd gone to Yale" on their deathbed!
And cheer up! Life is a challenge, enjoy everything it has to offer, even if it's just listening to the birds sing on Sunday morning. Don't miss the beauty life holds. Laugh. Love. Take time to look around and YES, smell the roses! And remember, people have whispered to loved ones "I'm so glad you were in my life", but NO ONE has ever said "Gee, I sure wish I'd gone to Yale" on their deathbed!
Doreen
Reply #99 Thursday, March 27, 2003 9:21 AM
Reply #99 Thursday, March 27, 2003 9:21 AM
I actually agree w/ you MrGupps who needs to pay a so called professional I think you'll be fine just speaking more to your mom and a few friends (save the money and go buy them sunflower seeds)
and yes do listen to Mouse up there cuz school is important yes but nothing worth losing your life over (that is just rediculous) you should be having some fun in school right now and trying to learn how to spell and stuff there that's about it, you'll learn more better things when you finish school and land outside in life (that's the real school)
I hope you're feeling better today???
and yes do listen to Mouse up there cuz school is important yes but nothing worth losing your life over (that is just rediculous) you should be having some fun in school right now and trying to learn how to spell and stuff there that's about it, you'll learn more better things when you finish school and land outside in life (that's the real school)
I hope you're feeling better today???
JamMeister33
Reply #100 Thursday, March 27, 2003 9:31 AM
Reply #100 Thursday, March 27, 2003 9:31 AM
Hey, hang in there MrGupps, you have your entire life ahead of you... me, I stopped having birthdays about ten years ago.. Just remember, tomorrow is always another day and it just might be the best day of your life...
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Reply #81 Tuesday, March 25, 2003 10:26 PM
gnight.......