Can ex- lovers be friends?
Tuesday, March 18, 2003 by joetheblow | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
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IPlural
Reply #3 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 5:47 AM
Reply #3 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 5:47 AM
I've seen it and I've also someone whom I almost married who is one of my closer friends.
People do not get into relationships so they end up hating each other
If you can get through and past the painful parts and back to the love, sure, though it
might be a different type of love. Sometimes that is what screws it up from the begining,
it is a love of a human being, whom they are and such, and not being IN love with the person.
mm, short answer
yeah
People do not get into relationships so they end up hating each other
If you can get through and past the painful parts and back to the love, sure, though it
might be a different type of love. Sometimes that is what screws it up from the begining,
it is a love of a human being, whom they are and such, and not being IN love with the person.
mm, short answer
yeah
Valhalla
Reply #4 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 5:50 AM
Reply #4 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 5:50 AM
My ex-wife is one of my best friends.
We're both happily re-married but find it extremely easy to keep our friendship alive. We both know that our life together as a couple is over but were friends before we were lovers and find it easy to revert back to that state.
We're both happily re-married but find it extremely easy to keep our friendship alive. We both know that our life together as a couple is over but were friends before we were lovers and find it easy to revert back to that state.
IPlural
Reply #5 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 6:09 AM
cool
this is a good thing and one that shoould happen more often, it would safe so much pain that otherwise is so distructful for so many, both emotionally and mentally (self image)...
Reply #5 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 6:09 AM
coolthis is a good thing and one that shoould happen more often, it would safe so much pain that otherwise is so distructful for so many, both emotionally and mentally (self image)...
paxx
Reply #6 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 6:27 AM
Reply #6 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 6:27 AM
Depends on the cause of the split.
If they split because love just wasn't there anymore, but without hate replacing it, then it's possible. But if there is still the slightest trace of love in either of the two, the no, friendship isn't possible.
If they split because love just wasn't there anymore, but without hate replacing it, then it's possible. But if there is still the slightest trace of love in either of the two, the no, friendship isn't possible.
Lecrayon
Reply #7 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 7:56 AM
Reply #7 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 7:56 AM
Yes. Friendship can go beyond the love stage. It has been reached by many.
JamMeister33
Reply #8 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:18 AM
Reply #8 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:18 AM
I am still good friends with one and somewhat friends with another... the first one I've known since high school so it wasn't too difficult to remain friends with her but the second one broke my heart and with her she tries harder than I do to remain friends but yes we are still friends.
kthxbye
Reply #9 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:57 AM
Reply #9 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:57 AM
Yes, yes they can - and in fact, Xerraire, it can be /quite/ easy, depending on the people involved.
kthxbye looks over at his email with a fond sigh.
kthxbye looks over at his email with a fond sigh.
kthxbye
Reply #10 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:58 AM
Reply #10 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 8:58 AM
Wow - first thing in the morning posts....
bleh.
That was a "Not to contradict Xerraire..."
It all depends on the people involved...
kthxbye wanders off, mumbling incoherently, to go get some coffee.
bleh.
That was a "Not to contradict Xerraire..."
It all depends on the people involved...
kthxbye wanders off, mumbling incoherently, to go get some coffee.
Xerraire
Reply #11 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 10:34 AM
Reply #11 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 10:34 AM
kthxbye
Ok it depends on the people
I suppose if I am half the equation, given time, yes its possible...but, I still think it isn't easy. Its like you have to deny a certain part of you, something that was once instinctive, and now must die in away.
With time, there is a healing and a heart that still can love and appreciate that person for all the same reasons you loved them in the first place, without going further than friends.
Just isn't easy! hehe
Ok it depends on the people
I suppose if I am half the equation, given time, yes its possible...but, I still think it isn't easy. Its like you have to deny a certain part of you, something that was once instinctive, and now must die in away.
With time, there is a healing and a heart that still can love and appreciate that person for all the same reasons you loved them in the first place, without going further than friends.
Just isn't easy! hehe
JamMeister33
Reply #13 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 10:39 AM
Reply #13 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 10:39 AM
Now, of course if we're talking about ex-spouses.. I haven't talked to my ex-wife in 16 years and wouldn't have anything to do with her for any reason under the sun.
Cavanaugh
Reply #14 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 11:00 AM
Reply #14 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 11:00 AM
Be honorable, be kind, be honest.
after that, anything is possible.
after that, anything is possible.
slinky1947
Reply #15 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 12:06 PM
Reply #15 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 12:06 PM
I guess it all depends. I consider my ex "family" (not friends) and he considers me the same. We can attend family gatherings, we hug/kiss, as a welcome and goodbye. But then again, where I'm from that is done for all greetings and goodbyes. As long as this "friendship" doesn't hurt any others, such as new spouse/girlfiend/boyfriend, that may be involved, I see no problem.
werewolf
Reply #17 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 1:02 PM
Reply #17 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 1:02 PM
if both are emotionally mature enough, sure...why not.
RustyBlade
Reply #20 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 3:31 PM
Reply #20 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 3:31 PM
Yes. Sometimes. But if one is still strongly physically attracted to the other it can be it can be more trouble than it is worth.
My exwife and I are friends. But we had the frienship thing going for a couple years prior to the marriage. And although we had fun, neither of us were really getting what we wanted sexually from the other. So it is not an issue.
My exwife and I are friends. But we had the frienship thing going for a couple years prior to the marriage. And although we had fun, neither of us were really getting what we wanted sexually from the other. So it is not an issue.
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Reply #1 Tuesday, March 18, 2003 5:21 AM