Darkseraphim.com
Saturday, December 14, 2002 by Larry Kuperman | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
I was reading the "Words of Wisdom" thread earlier and I learned that Darkseraphim.com, one of the members of this community is ill. Very ill.
I don't know AngEla that well, only through her posts actually. But I do feel a connection to her and I want to wish her well. AngEla, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
You can still be beautiful without hair. Just look at me. On second thought... Look at whats-her-name from Star Trek. Thats better!
I laughed at many of the Words of Wisdom. But I can tell you this: Life is about caring for the people that we meet. Leave a place better than it was when you entered it and that is progress.
Thank you for hanging out on WinCustomize and I look forward to seeing you around.
I don't know AngEla that well, only through her posts actually. But I do feel a connection to her and I want to wish her well. AngEla, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
You can still be beautiful without hair. Just look at me. On second thought... Look at whats-her-name from Star Trek. Thats better!
I laughed at many of the Words of Wisdom. But I can tell you this: Life is about caring for the people that we meet. Leave a place better than it was when you entered it and that is progress.
Thank you for hanging out on WinCustomize and I look forward to seeing you around.
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LadyWolf
Reply #22 Saturday, December 14, 2002 11:40 PM
Reply #22 Saturday, December 14, 2002 11:40 PM
Nothing but good thoughts coming your way AngEla ...
BoXXi
Reply #23 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:15 AM
Reply #23 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:15 AM
Angela: My wife had cancer 2 years ago. She beat it. she's a strong woman. I believe you are too. Don't underestimate the power of the mind, as a qualified hypnotist, I know what I am talking about. I have seen some amazing results achieved through hypnosis and I urge you to look into it.
I will be thinking of you...............Bryan.
I will be thinking of you...............Bryan.
Koasati
Reply #24 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:40 AM
Reply #24 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:40 AM
Real Life has been very distracting the past couple of days, I've been out of touch here........I am very sorry to hear of your illness, AngEla. I'll be sending you all the light I can spare, (is blue ok?)
goodmorphing
Reply #25 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:52 AM
Reply #25 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:52 AM
Now... I had to dig to find your other comment. These may sound like scoldings but they are not...
1) Now is the time for you to be selfish in the extreme. That means that you have to give up worrying about how other people might react. You need to do what you can to reduce stress and make yourself strong.
2) Strong does not mean keeping things in. Doing that just saps your energy. It is building a pressure cooker of your feelings and when the next stressor comes along it is like taking the lid off the pressure-cooker without releasing the tension. All of your inner thoughts and emotions come flying out in whatever direction. Then you have to waste energy and time to gather yourself together and you worry yourself needlessly with anxiety caused by worrying what you have done with your reaction. As far as I am concerned it is always stronger (and harder) to be open with people.
3) I learned this one in my Medical Ethics class and I think you can generalize it here. Disclosure is always best. Not doing so does several things. It isolates you, for one thing. Just look at the people here who are ready to support you. If you had never said anything I could never have given you the hair tip (in case it helps). Not disclosing also cuts people off and causes repercussions for them. See, it was obvious something happened with the hair. Not knowing why, other people end up distanced and unsure. Giving them a reference point helps them to understand (and you to feel less stressed over your reactions). Not disclosing stuff also takes away from people their ability to come to grips with a situation and to deal with it. It robs you and your friends of communication.
4) Remember the healing power of faith. Remember also the power of laughter... I think you must have heard of Dr. Norman Cousins. If I remember right, he is the one who treated his brush with cancer by going to the video store and checking out the humor tapes. Laughter does help.
Oh, and another thing... about the chocolate forest. There is nothing there that can cause harm. In case you bump into a sharp edge, just magic it away. And any hair that got trimmed there is magicked automatically... it is enhanced with protective charms for strength, longevity and mirth!!! That fuzzy logic has special healing powers! 
1) Now is the time for you to be selfish in the extreme. That means that you have to give up worrying about how other people might react. You need to do what you can to reduce stress and make yourself strong.
2) Strong does not mean keeping things in. Doing that just saps your energy. It is building a pressure cooker of your feelings and when the next stressor comes along it is like taking the lid off the pressure-cooker without releasing the tension. All of your inner thoughts and emotions come flying out in whatever direction. Then you have to waste energy and time to gather yourself together and you worry yourself needlessly with anxiety caused by worrying what you have done with your reaction. As far as I am concerned it is always stronger (and harder) to be open with people.
3) I learned this one in my Medical Ethics class and I think you can generalize it here. Disclosure is always best. Not doing so does several things. It isolates you, for one thing. Just look at the people here who are ready to support you. If you had never said anything I could never have given you the hair tip (in case it helps). Not disclosing also cuts people off and causes repercussions for them. See, it was obvious something happened with the hair. Not knowing why, other people end up distanced and unsure. Giving them a reference point helps them to understand (and you to feel less stressed over your reactions). Not disclosing stuff also takes away from people their ability to come to grips with a situation and to deal with it. It robs you and your friends of communication.
4) Remember the healing power of faith. Remember also the power of laughter... I think you must have heard of Dr. Norman Cousins. If I remember right, he is the one who treated his brush with cancer by going to the video store and checking out the humor tapes. Laughter does help.
Oh, and another thing... about the chocolate forest. There is nothing there that can cause harm. In case you bump into a sharp edge, just magic it away. And any hair that got trimmed there is magicked automatically... it is enhanced with protective charms for strength, longevity and mirth!!! That fuzzy logic has special healing powers! 
goodmorphing
Reply #26 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:59 AM Anyways, I get verbose sometimes... You will be in my thoughts. In your touogh and lonely places that you might face now, shine your light on us and you will be less alone.
Reply #26 Sunday, December 15, 2002 12:59 AM
Anyways, I get verbose sometimes... You will be in my thoughts. In your touogh and lonely places that you might face now, shine your light on us and you will be less alone.
Bangkokboy
Reply #27 Sunday, December 15, 2002 4:01 AM
Reply #27 Sunday, December 15, 2002 4:01 AM
i'm projecting beautiful gold and purple lights at you DS. ( all you purple haters can shut up for one night.)
Fuzzy Logic
Reply #28 Sunday, December 15, 2002 6:51 AM
Reply #28 Sunday, December 15, 2002 6:51 AM
Angela, you have my special cuddles, tickles and as much love as I can possible find.
Fuzzy Logic looks for big sloppy kiss emoticon but can't find one.
It isn't much fun when you don't feel well. I know this first hand being on a long long long waiting list for open heart surgery. People are suprised how unconcerned I am. That's because I figure why spoil today by worrying about tomorrow? Besides, being well again is something to look forward to. For me the goal is to go charging round on my mountain bike again. I know it's not the same as you have, but it does change the way you look at things.
I hope you are well again soon, my thoughts are with you.
Fuzzy Logic looks for big sloppy kiss emoticon but can't find one.
It isn't much fun when you don't feel well. I know this first hand being on a long long long waiting list for open heart surgery. People are suprised how unconcerned I am. That's because I figure why spoil today by worrying about tomorrow? Besides, being well again is something to look forward to. For me the goal is to go charging round on my mountain bike again. I know it's not the same as you have, but it does change the way you look at things.
I hope you are well again soon, my thoughts are with you.
werewolf
Reply #29 Sunday, December 15, 2002 11:15 AM
Reply #29 Sunday, December 15, 2002 11:15 AM
Angela I had no idea you were ill. I will pray everyday for you and send what little strength I have to you. You will beat this, you are a Viking woman!
Angel_Wings
Reply #30 Sunday, December 15, 2002 2:02 PM
Reply #30 Sunday, December 15, 2002 2:02 PM
Thank you all so much for the lovely and very uplifting thoughts and Dianne (Goodmorphing) for the great and informative advice, you are a sweetheart and I appreciate your spirit.
And Michael (Fuzzy Logic), I think we need to get a positive thought/prayer chain going for YOU so you can get moved up the list for that heart surgery! (((HUG))) Let’s all be sure to keep Fuzzy Logic in our thoughts! (And Fuzzy better change back to a Mr. before people get the wrong idea)!
I’m pretty busy so I won’t be able to get back here but I wanted to make one last, quick reply to all of you wonderful folks!
Love and hugs and warm, gentle guiding light to all of you!!!!
And Michael (Fuzzy Logic), I think we need to get a positive thought/prayer chain going for YOU so you can get moved up the list for that heart surgery! (((HUG))) Let’s all be sure to keep Fuzzy Logic in our thoughts! (And Fuzzy better change back to a Mr. before people get the wrong idea)!
I’m pretty busy so I won’t be able to get back here but I wanted to make one last, quick reply to all of you wonderful folks!
Love and hugs and warm, gentle guiding light to all of you!!!!
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Reply #21 Saturday, December 14, 2002 11:29 PM