In Memory of Elbert S. Dillard
Goodbye For Now, Sweet Brother
Tuesday, August 3, 2010 by RedneckDude | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
Hey guys and gals. It is with a heavy heart that I wish to post a short memorial to my brother. In remembrance of all the great times we had during his short life.
Just let me say that I lost a good friend yesterday with the passing of my older brother. We call him Buddy. He was a few years older than me, and he was always the guy that took me fishing when I was a kid. Gave me first beer...lol. And subsequent hangover...lol.
Later in life, when I was in a bad place in my own life, he agreed to raise my first born son for me, when I wasn't the man I needed to be in order to raise him well. And he did just that, and did a fine job. Then, when things were better, he moved closer to me so I could spend more time with my son.
These are just a few things on my mind tonight as I prepare for his funeral and cremation tomorrow. I will miss him, but he was in poor health and had been for years. A long list of ailments and a few car wrecks take their tolls on a body.
He finally passed the morning of 8-1-2010 of heart failure. He had gotten up that morning, went to the medicine cabinet to take his meds. He was talking to his family about a short road trip later that day. He went into his bedroom to dress, and never came out. When his wife and my son realized he hadn't come out, they went to check and he had fallen on the bed and wasn't breathing. My son administered CPR to no avail. 911 was called, then I was called.
When I got there, the EMTs had just arrived and they took him to the hospital and pronounced him deceased.
So, for now, I will be short a brother and a friend. But someday..............
I love and miss you, Buddy.
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Reply #23 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 10:17 AM
It is a hard time for you. Hang in there. My condolences to you and yourn.
Reply #24 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 10:25 AM
You wrote a beautiful tribute to your brother. Sorry for your loss, Jim. 
Reply #25 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 10:41 AM
What a beautiful tribute to your brother. My condolences to you, your son and Buddy's wife. You are now in my thoughts and prayers Jim. You have given so much to us here, it is now time for us to pay back a little of that. You have affected a lot of people's lives herw,
I think Buddy is very proud of what you wrote here today. He will always be with you in heart and soul. I know it may be hard to see that now but things will get a little better. He lives on in you.
Thanks you for sharing with us Jim anf please take care.
Reply #26 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 10:46 AM
My Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, please accept my sympathy's
Reply #27 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 11:47 AM
Very sorry to hear of your loss Jim.
My condolences to you and your family.
Reply #29 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 12:54 PM
Thanks guys, come have some food, there's plenty....
Reply #30 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 1:48 PM
Bummer Jim. 
So sorry you lost your brother. Here's one for Buddy! 
Reply #31 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 4:34 PM
I am very sorry to hear of your Buddy's passing Jim. My condolences to you. It seems you have inherited your brother's caring & sharing personality as you have been a great friend and advisor to me. He would be honored by one such as you! I'll get in touch some time later or if you want to talk you know where I'm at. 
Reply #32 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 5:45 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this, Jim. My heart and condolences go out to you and your family. 
Reply #33 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 6:31 PM
My deepest condolences to you and your family Jim.
Reply #34 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 11:09 PM
Thanks guys.
Stramp, I'll catch you on Yahoo.
Giz, send a few more and maybe it'll take off the edge...
Reply #35 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 11:13 PM
Guys, it's over. I'm tired, and so is everyone else. It's been a good day, and my brother is at peace, pain free, and free.
Once I pick up his ashes on thurs. it'll be over. His suffering has ended, and mine will be short lived. To wish him here would be to wish him more suffering.
Reply #36 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 11:49 PM
been thinking of you today Jim...and your family.... 
Reply #37 Wednesday, August 4, 2010 11:05 AM
Thanks Syd. We can use all the good thoughts you can send our way. Now is the time for us, his family, to make something good come from his passing.
It is my belief that we should celebrate his life, rather than mourn his death........even though we need to grieve, we also should celebrate his life!
Reply #38 Wednesday, August 4, 2010 11:07 AM
same this end Jim, I know its hard but keep ya chin up mate and you know we are all here for you
Reply #39 Wednesday, August 4, 2010 11:14 AM
Thanks Shaunna! I know I have a lot of friends here at WC. This place is a haven because of it's members. Some of the best folks on the planet! You guys rock!
Reply #40 Sunday, August 22, 2010 5:44 PM
My sister in law just read this thread and says to say thank you so very much to all you nice people at WC!
She appreciates the thoughts and prayers. 
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Reply #21 Tuesday, August 3, 2010 9:56 AM
I'm so sorry for your great loss. My heart breaks for you and your family.
The only positive is that you got to share his life.
And a huge family for support. Take care. 