No ego...
Saturday, March 8, 2008 by Skinhit | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
Just something I've been thinking about...Do you live with or without ego? Now granted,there's a tad of ego is in everyone...But my question is, do you let it motivate you, do you let it speak for you? I've noticed so much lately, that operating without ego allows you to meet people where they are, allows you to empower them, allows you to motivate, and better than that, allows you to "just be". I challenge you to think about it...What do you have to lose?
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Phoon
Reply #22 Saturday, March 8, 2008 9:01 AM
Reply #22 Saturday, March 8, 2008 9:01 AM
I think, ego I am..
from the book of Zubish Proverbs...
from the book of Zubish Proverbs...
zakai1369
Reply #23 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:40 AM
yeah I was just kidding thus the
at the end 
Your questions make good points for those that have yet to learn the lesson.
Reply #23 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:40 AM
No one is above ego...see orinial post
yeah I was just kidding thus the
at the end 
Your questions make good points for those that have yet to learn the lesson.
WebGizmos
Reply #24 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:56 AM
Reply #24 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:56 AM
Whats an ego? I do what I do...I don't think about things like ego's. To many other problems in the world to have an ego anyway. Wait a minute...this is a trick question....isn't that a breakfast food? Leggo my Ego! 
Uvah
Reply #25 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:59 AM
Reply #25 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:59 AM
I never really gave it much thought. Then I looked in the mirror one day and said...that's not good. One of the reasons I decided to write my book. My alter ego is blonde, blue eyed and stands five foot nothing. Though I'm of the male persuasion my other 'self'...(a character in my book and no, I'm not coming out of any closet so don't get the wrong idea) is a girl with a split personality. One part is mature level headed and as flaky as they come...the other is as a five year old with a somewhat different outlook on life. An example:
"Thissa not good. Thissa not good" she says as her bondmate stares quizzically at her,"How I are supposed to dood this? I are just a wee person".
Her other self would have said,"Yeah right...you expect me to do this? Get bent why dontcha".
In other words my 'ego' was more like the older persona. Then you lose your job, your home and a lot of other stuff and say to yourself,"Is this really worth it?" Believe me it isn't. So I trashed him and now it's time to get back to the real world.
"Thissa not good. Thissa not good" she says as her bondmate stares quizzically at her,"How I are supposed to dood this? I are just a wee person".
Her other self would have said,"Yeah right...you expect me to do this? Get bent why dontcha".
In other words my 'ego' was more like the older persona. Then you lose your job, your home and a lot of other stuff and say to yourself,"Is this really worth it?" Believe me it isn't. So I trashed him and now it's time to get back to the real world.
2of3
Reply #27 Saturday, March 8, 2008 5:45 PM
Reply #27 Saturday, March 8, 2008 5:45 PM
I probably have a too large ego.
I'm about to get knocked down a peg, as I'm starting a new job. Nothing like being the new guy for giving you a dose of humility
It gonna be interesting for sure
I'm about to get knocked down a peg, as I'm starting a new job. Nothing like being the new guy for giving you a dose of humility
It gonna be interesting for sure
DigitalCHET
Reply #28 Saturday, March 8, 2008 6:48 PM
Reply #28 Saturday, March 8, 2008 6:48 PM
Eating humble pie is good for the soul. Everyone should have a slice or two every now and then; keeps you balanced and level-headed, and likeable and approachable by others.
messiah1
Reply #29 Saturday, March 8, 2008 7:01 PM
I concur...
Reply #29 Saturday, March 8, 2008 7:01 PM
I don't have an ego - a god has no need for one...
I concur...
Matchbook
Reply #30 Saturday, March 8, 2008 7:58 PM
Reply #30 Saturday, March 8, 2008 7:58 PM
Whether one agrees or disagrees with my post here doesn't matter: It's just my observation/s experience/s..
The ego is an ugly thing. I submit right here that no one needs even a smidgen of ego: it stands to only get in the way. In the way of enlightenment. In the way of true self-discovery. In the way of proper communication. Ego is an obstructing force no matter how I look at it or from what angle. Ego = Ugly.
Where one may improve themselves, one often does not because the ego obscured the message/s; the wisdom from the messenger.
Where two people may communicate openly, freely, two people often do not because the ego got in the way for one or both parties and the lines of communication were sufficiently destroyed before they were ever given any fair and balanced chance.
It gets in the way when we meet people, when we communicate, when we *should* and sure could be learning from others. It gets in the way of so many things I've spent many years now ridding myself of the idea of an ego. The sense, implications and inferences surrounding "I" have been, and continue to be, rethought.
To quote a towering mind of the past, Ralph Waldo Emerson:
Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say 'I think,' 'I am,' but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose. These roses under my window make no reference to former roses or to better ones; they are for what they are; they exist with God to-day. There is no time to them. There is simply the rose; it is perfect in every moment of its existence. Before a leaf-bud has burst, its whole life acts; in the full-blown flower there is no more; in the leafless root there is no less.
Its nature is satisfied, and it satisfies nature, in all moments alike. But man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time.
The ego is an ugly thing. I submit right here that no one needs even a smidgen of ego: it stands to only get in the way. In the way of enlightenment. In the way of true self-discovery. In the way of proper communication. Ego is an obstructing force no matter how I look at it or from what angle. Ego = Ugly.
Where one may improve themselves, one often does not because the ego obscured the message/s; the wisdom from the messenger.
Where two people may communicate openly, freely, two people often do not because the ego got in the way for one or both parties and the lines of communication were sufficiently destroyed before they were ever given any fair and balanced chance.
It gets in the way when we meet people, when we communicate, when we *should* and sure could be learning from others. It gets in the way of so many things I've spent many years now ridding myself of the idea of an ego. The sense, implications and inferences surrounding "I" have been, and continue to be, rethought.
To quote a towering mind of the past, Ralph Waldo Emerson:
Man is timid and apologetic; he is no longer upright; he dares not say 'I think,' 'I am,' but quotes some saint or sage. He is ashamed before the blade of grass or the blowing rose. These roses under my window make no reference to former roses or to better ones; they are for what they are; they exist with God to-day. There is no time to them. There is simply the rose; it is perfect in every moment of its existence. Before a leaf-bud has burst, its whole life acts; in the full-blown flower there is no more; in the leafless root there is no less.
Its nature is satisfied, and it satisfies nature, in all moments alike. But man postpones or remembers; he does not live in the present, but with reverted eye laments the past, or, heedless of the riches that surround him, stands on tiptoe to foresee the future. He cannot be happy and strong until he too lives with nature in the present, above time.
Jafo
Reply #31 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:09 PM
Reply #31 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:09 PM
The ego is an ugly thing. I submit right here that no one needs even a smidgen of ego: it stands to only get in the way. In the way of enlightenment. In the way of true self-discovery. In the way of proper communication. Ego is an obstructing force no matter how I look at it or from what angle. Ego = Ugly.
Like it or not it's a pre-requisite of existence/sentience ...
Matchbook
Reply #32 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:16 PM
Then I submit you're not using the most correct word (when you use 'ego'). There is no need for the 'ego'. It's not intrinsically human. It's an additive. Unnecessary, at that.
Humility, strength, the courage of our convictions, fortitude, tenacity, gratitude are all beautiful things and even if one doesn't currently practice these, they can all be learned. But nowhere in there (or in life) is having an ego necessary. Perhaps many mean 'confidence' when they say ego. Perhaps they confuse confidence with ego because of the many who, with an inflated ego, take confidence to that 'next level'. In this case: too much confidence tends to breed egotism. But, linguistically and logically speaking, confidence and ego *are* indeed vastly different.
I say confidence is a necessary component, indeed. Not ego, though.
Reply #32 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:16 PM
Like it or not it's a pre-requisite of existence/sentience
Then I submit you're not using the most correct word (when you use 'ego'). There is no need for the 'ego'. It's not intrinsically human. It's an additive. Unnecessary, at that.
Humility, strength, the courage of our convictions, fortitude, tenacity, gratitude are all beautiful things and even if one doesn't currently practice these, they can all be learned. But nowhere in there (or in life) is having an ego necessary. Perhaps many mean 'confidence' when they say ego. Perhaps they confuse confidence with ego because of the many who, with an inflated ego, take confidence to that 'next level'. In this case: too much confidence tends to breed egotism. But, linguistically and logically speaking, confidence and ego *are* indeed vastly different.
I say confidence is a necessary component, indeed. Not ego, though.
starkers
Reply #33 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:41 PM
Reply #33 Saturday, March 8, 2008 8:41 PM
My ego was so big I had to tote it around in a dump truck... then somebody hot-wired it and drove away.
Chef Garry
Reply #34 Saturday, March 8, 2008 9:41 PM
Reply #34 Saturday, March 8, 2008 9:41 PM
"whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right". Every person I ever met who excelled at something has a belief that they are very good at what they do. I believe that ego (or call it self-confidence if that suits better) is necessary to be good at something.
For myself, yeah I have an ego. That doesn't mean I look down at others but I'm pretty good at my job and feedback tends to support my impression.
For myself, yeah I have an ego. That doesn't mean I look down at others but I'm pretty good at my job and feedback tends to support my impression.
Skinhit
Reply #35 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:46 PM
Reply #35 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:46 PM
While I do value your input Chef Garry...Ego and confidence are two totally different things. It is entirely possible to be great at something without ego.
Skinhit
Reply #36 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:53 PM
Reply #36 Saturday, March 8, 2008 10:53 PM
Caustic...thanks for your ver insightful comments. I agree wholeheartedly...
Cavan1
Reply #37 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:05 PM
Reply #37 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:05 PM
Some ego is/can be a good thing if you don't let it go to your head.
As for those with too much ego I think Extreme put it best Kid Ego lyrics
As for those with too much ego I think Extreme put it best Kid Ego lyrics
killajosh
Reply #38 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:18 PM
Reply #38 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:18 PM
"The extent of the ego's inability to recognize itself and see what it is doing is staggering and unbelievable. [...] To become free of the ego is not really a big job but a very small one. All you need to do is be aware of your thoughts and emotions - as they happen. This is not really a 'doing' but an alert 'seeing'. In that sense, it is true that there is nothing you can do to become free of the ego. When that shift happens, which is the shift from thinking to awareness, an intelligence far greater than the ego's cleverness begins to operate in your life. Emotions and even thoughts become depersonalized through awareness. Their impersonal nature is recognized. There is no longer a self in them. They are just human emotions, human thoughts. Your entire personal history, which is ultimately no more than a story, a bundle of thoughts and emotions, becomes of secondary importance and no longer occupies the forefront of your consciousness. It no longer forms the basis for your sense of identity. You are the light of Presence, the awareness that is prior to and deeper than any thoughts and emotions."
....from Eckhart Tolle's, 'A New Earth'
....from Eckhart Tolle's, 'A New Earth'
ShelbyGT_The_Car
Reply #39 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:30 PM
Reply #39 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:30 PM
I'm ugly as hell so I must have a ton of ego. Just wish it would give me a kick in ase lately to get things done. Seems there is never enough time for much to be finished now days. Maybe it is me just getting old too! But ego is always something that we never know how to use - it use's us and by that we are abused by it. So I'm gona say ya I got a lot of it for one reason. It has always got in my way and it would be nice to get rid of too! Like something you wish you had and did not know what it really was and then you get too damn much of it.
Everything in moderation and maybe it will work. But that is in the hands of the person who see's he has that control. Me and moderation never got along either. I abused that one way back as a kid and never got over it! Ego - go for it ; moderation - forgot to save some!!!
SGT
Everything in moderation and maybe it will work. But that is in the hands of the person who see's he has that control. Me and moderation never got along either. I abused that one way back as a kid and never got over it! Ego - go for it ; moderation - forgot to save some!!!
SGT
Skinhit
Reply #40 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:44 PM
It is your responsibility as a human being to grasp hold of this and overcome it, otherwise you will always be controlled and further than that it will destroy any healthy relationship you might have. Not to mention it will stand between you and your enlightenment...
Reply #40 Saturday, March 8, 2008 11:44 PM
But ego is always something that we never know how to use - it use's us and by that we are abused by it.
It is your responsibility as a human being to grasp hold of this and overcome it, otherwise you will always be controlled and further than that it will destroy any healthy relationship you might have. Not to mention it will stand between you and your enlightenment...
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Reply #21 Saturday, March 8, 2008 7:26 AM
No ego here, I'm way too perfect to have one.