In Need of Expert Advice
Wednesday, September 26, 2007 by Elfkura | Discussion: WinCustomize Talk
I'm not talking about a threat that is said just because one is mad. We all know when those are simply just angry words. The look my mother gave me this morning, including numerous other occasions, is the solid look of murder. If she had a weapon she could kill me with at the moment of her brilliancy, I would've long since met whichever god that was bright enough to make me. I have been lucky so far, but how much longer will this luck last?
What do I do?
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Reply #22 Friday, September 28, 2007 7:56 AM
Its not the war in Iraq we are talking about here. Taking up arms against ones mother isnt an option, there are other alternatives and posting a thread like this on a skinning site isnt one of them.
Reply #23 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:26 AM
That's the best response I can give you. Which is the same response most are giving you. If you are in danger, get out and then pursue the proper folks to get your mother help. Because she needs it.
Reply #24 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:31 AM
Elfie has been a skinning-site member since eons before Wincustomize.....she's grown up amongst the originators of online skinning sites....so her trials and tribulations are shared with us all.
She knows this isn't THE 'expert advice' source...but knows too that she will find sympathetic and intelligent comment from her peers.
There's no harm done there...we're all human individuals together, after all...
Reply #25 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:42 AM
As for harm done,,no,not yet.
Reply #26 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:43 AM
Reply #27 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:48 AM
What would you suggest?
Reply #28 Friday, September 28, 2007 8:57 AM
What most others have suggested, leave first then contact the REAL experts.
Reply #29 Friday, September 28, 2007 9:05 AM
Hmmm . . looks like that's what *I* did.
Reply #30 Friday, September 28, 2007 9:14 AM
Normally I 'might' agree with this - but being this is the internet and the fact that I worked in the medical field as a nurse I'd tread very lightly here.
A one sided conversation does not make it all true. You have all given the advice to leave - I see no other option if a person is truly in fear of their life. Just because some of you know this poster doesn't mean that you can truly know the situation 100%
Sitting here in a skinning forum will not help anyone.
Advising them to grab a buck knife without knowing the true details will help no one.
Advising them to get out and seek proper help is all that should be offered in this case.
This may be a community but it is an internet community.
Keep that in mind.
Reply #32 Saturday, September 29, 2007 11:53 AM
That's a very nice compliment. Thank you, Jafo, although I still think I have plenty of growing up to do.
What Jafo says is true. Most of the people I knew from skinning sites that have come and gone are mostly here. This is where I come when I have questions and seek opinions and answers. Usually, the results are more than satisfactory regardless of what issue or question.
Those were my thoughts. I simply needed someone outside this sphere that I'm cased in to say something. Things look and feel different from the outside. No, I can't say and describe all that has happened, and quite frankly, all everyone has thus far is simply my side of the story. No one is here to confirm it. Such is also the case with professionals.
Before Skinz.org traded owners and most of those skinners migrated here, I was known for one thing: turning an online internet community into a real life network where people knew each other face-to-face. I only succeeded in bringing together a couple of people once (ash, shoggot, l0c, matrix, and myself), but I haven't given up hope to hold other meetings. College didn't offer me much in the way of time to pursue that to a greater extent. Now I hope to get the chance to travel and meet up with some of these people. In turn, they'll meet others.
Reply #33 Sunday, September 30, 2007 3:13 AM
If one of those 'can do' things includes making contact with a community in which the individual feels relatively safe, and in a way that helps them see those words reflected and possibly made more tangible & manageable, it would seem a shame if that voice was diminished by our inability to listen - so while I understand the concerns, I think it's good that the thread is given the space to breathe.
Sometimes people don't need all the answers, they just need something that gives them the strength to go on and find the answers for themselves.
Reply #34 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 4:22 AM
Hello Everyone,
I figured the last message I leave the community shouldn't be that I might not be alive anymore. It's been well over a year since this post got started, and I have taken the advice of getting out to heart. I booked myself a plane ticket, paid for by my Significant Other (SO), and left July 10, 2008 for the United States. I've been living with my SO ever since. However, I had to leave once Christmas to go back to my parents because I was unable to stay for longer than 6 months on a travel visa.
Since my return again from Taiwan, I have acquired myself permanent residency status here in the United States, allowing me to live and work here freely. In addition to that, I'm a new mom. I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy June this year and have been quite busy with being a mother.
While I haven't made any posts, I've been lurking around in the background just watching, as I always have. Currently, I'm looking for inspiration to start writing again because that has always been my ultimate goal.
Just wanted to let you guys know I'm okay... actually, more than okay. I have my own family to care and love now 
Thanks again for all the support.
Sincerely,
Elffie
Reply #35 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 4:43 AM
Elffie! 
It's really good to hear you are ok and doing well. Congratulations on your new family - wonderful news 
At last you may have some peace and happyness.
Hope to see you around
Reply #36 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 5:52 AM
Hi Elfie..... 
Glad you are happier these days, take care. 
Reply #37 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 7:23 AM
I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you, Elfkura....but please allow me to congratulate you on getting out of what sounded like a harrowing situation, and congratulate you on coming to America and starting a family here.
Though times are tough here now, please stay and raise your family here!
*edit: Just a thought....why not write your own story...your life history to now?
Reply #38 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 7:31 AM
Hi Elfie, it's certainly good news that your life has taken a turn for the better and your future is brighter.
Congratulations on your new family, and be well, all of you. 
Reply #39 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 8:15 AM
After reading the OP and following, it is wonderful to know that you have found peace. Good luck with your writing!
Reply #40 Wednesday, November 11, 2009 8:17 AM
Hi Ellfie. Glad to hear from you again and that your doing fine. Happy that you can stay in the US and also happy for your son. I really hope everything works out for you and your own family.
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Reply #21 Friday, September 28, 2007 7:29 AM
In context of that post (#8) i was confirming that she really was in life-threatening danger and trying to illustrate how serious it could be if she is in real fear for her life.
Having said that, protecting oneself when going into a hostile situation *is* prudent and worthy of consideration.