Brad's life philosophy, for what it's worth

I'm going to do what I want to do

Wednesday, May 14, 2008 by Draginol | Discussion: GalCiv Journals

About once a month someone, somewhere, will comment on something I've written saying how "A CEO shouldn't act unprofessionally in public".  Over the years, I've gotten that message hundreds of times along with predictions of demise for my company due to my "public" behavior.

A long time ago I took a calculated risk:  Most people would prefer a CEO that is transparent, open and tells the truth even if those truths are sometimes not what they want to hear versus the traditional CEO that seems more like a politician.

Obviously, the company's continued survival tends to imply that the fact that I look at customer / developer relationships as a partnership of equals rather than one of master / slave as some "customers" online seem to think is not too damaging.

And even if it were damaging,  I would still do what I do no matter what. That is my primary motivation for having a company: To do what I want.  I want to make stuff for other people. Those people are my partners. It's a coequal relationship.

My personal and professional objectives have always been the same: I want to do what I want to do.

Freedom has consequences.  I am certain, beyond a doubt, that my public postings on various topics over the years has alienated some percentage of users who have encountered what I written to the point that they have decided to not purchase products and services from my company.  I'm okay with it.  It's a price I'm willing to pay to be able to do what I want.

I don't subscribe to the belief that because someone buys a product that they get a license to behave terribly.  A person exchanges their money for a product or service and that does not imply giving them the right to heap abuse on us or others.

Stardock isn't a public company. It's not investor run. It doesn't even have investors. It's my company. This makes it a bit unusual in the investor-driven technology industry. In the case of Stardock, it means that the company reflects my values. In particular, transparency and collaboration with others. That means I'll discuss things like legal cases or matters that people will predict will be our ruin.

Transparency is a double-edged sword. We won't tell people what they want to hear. We simply tell them what we believe is the truth -- even if that is not necessarily good news for us. Moreover, it also means we work on the things we want to do rather than what is arguably the most profitable.

Sure, there's a cost to doing what you want to do. I have gotten plenty of ribbing that we tend to prefer to make TURN-BASED fantasy strategy games instead of making action games.  But I want to make a turn-based fantasy strategy game. It won't sell as well as an FPS would but so what? What good is more money if you can't do what you want to do?

I'm 36. I'm a pretty happy guy.  I enjoy what I do. I enjoy hanging out with people online (most of the time).  And I get to work every day with people who I really like. Not just professionally but on a personal level.  So I tend to think I'm probably doing something right. But more to the point, I'm way past the point where I have to do anything I don't want to do. So I'm not inclined to put up with crap.

There is always some guy on the net who insists that THIS time, something i've said or done is going to be the end. Not a week goes by that someone doesn't insist that we're doomed because of something I've posted somewhere. 

But you know what?

Every day at Stardock is FUN.  Even during crunch-time it's FUN.  And why is it fun? Because every day we do what we want to do. It's why we are able to attract the best and brightest. Because the best and brightest are often motivated to have the freedom to work on the things they want to do work. To do the things they want to do.

And part of doing what you want to do is being able to show some obnoxious customer the door or making clear that we don't want or need jerks using our stuff.

But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter whether I'm justified or not because I'm going to do what I want to do. And so far, it's worked out pretty well for both me, my family, my coworkers, and our customers. 

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Zydor
Reply #41 Tuesday, May 20, 2008 9:12 AM
I'd pay $100 for some of the games the Stardock team has turned out.


Shhhh .... Geez dont give him those kinds of ideas .....

Regards
Zy
dragoon
Reply #42 Tuesday, May 20, 2008 9:49 AM
Good post.
I for one wish I could do as I want to do. I would love to be able to put across my personality as it is at home and with friends in work. Sadly, for my job, I have to appear to be professional and well educated....at least when the boss and the public are lurking near by.
If I was the owner of a 20 million dollar company, I would likely take much the same approach. Though I wouldn't bother with the boat or Porsche.... but I'm UK based and the government would try to steal it off me somehow.
apoc527
Reply #43 Sunday, May 25, 2008 1:48 AM
If you run your own company and can't do what you want, what's the point? I think this is the greatest post ever by Brad, and there have been many awesome ones.
AU_Armageddon
Reply #44 Tuesday, May 27, 2008 9:22 PM
Freedom baby, is never having to say your sorry.
- Satan (The Devil's Advocate, 1997)
manbear
Reply #45 Friday, June 6, 2008 5:39 AM
"I've 36. I've got a beautiful wife. 3 wonderful children. Plus I've got the toys. The Porsche 911 Turbo, the boat, the lake cottage, the big house, etc. And I get to work every day with people who I really like. Not just professionally but on a personal level.

Every day at Stardock is FUN. Even during crunch-time it's FUN. And why is it fun? Because every day we do what we want to do."


I'm just like you Brad so why does my life suck? I'm 36, single with no family and no close family ties. A 10 year old truck, no boat, no lake cottage, no house and in debt up to my eyeballs working at a really crappy job (that is really hard) for next to nothing pay with no benefits. Oh yeah! I spend all my time playing games (including yours) because that is "what I want to do"...

I hate to tell you but "in the real world" it doesn't work. It is nice that you have been able to create a little "bubble of reality" around yourself. Hmmm... maybe you could add "Bubble of Reality" to the Civ2:TofA mod?

Michael

Rhedd_V
Reply #46 Saturday, June 7, 2008 10:14 AM
I'm just like you Brad so why does my life suck?
Sorry your life sucks, but assuming it wasn't just a rhetorical question, I can give you an answer...

Talent. It makes all the difference in the world.

I didn't say I could give you an answer that you'd like.
Zydor
Reply #47 Saturday, June 7, 2008 11:15 AM
Like most people I've been through good times and bad - some really bad. Things turned out fairly good in the end though, many have worse. There was a stage earlier in life I got caught up in the whole "finger pointing thing" and blame the world and his wife for some issues. Then I woke to the Main Event that I had been blind to for a while. My Wife.

She has always been, and remains, so incredibly sanquine about life and its termoils. She has been a quiet and steady rock to me, as I waded through life's hassles like we all do. We're all human, and I still get some wishful thinking spinning around, but by in large that phase is over. The most important thing to me is my Wife and my Family, in all any scenario. Its easy to think we want the best for them, and lets face it we do. At the end of the day however, whats important is not what the other guy has - there's always someone with more, someone with less - its whats around yourself, your family.

I genuinely applaud, hugely, Brad's success (its heartedly deserved), but I strongly suspect that for all the "Toys" as he calls them (great phrase ) , the most important one is his family. No amount of "Toys" will ever replace them.

Everyone has that Key "Buble of Reality" - their family, or the one closest to them. Thats the real gem of life, and should never be forgotten amongst all this 'modern' world of consumerist "wanna have" and manic desire for recognition.

Regards
Zy
manbear
Reply #48 Monday, June 9, 2008 9:14 AM
Most of the places I have worked all of the talented people leave and all that remains is the mediocre bootlickers... lol Makes me wonder what happened to all of those talented people who left. Personally I have been laid off 8 times in 10 years from downsizes, reorganisations, corporate bankruptcies, relocations, et. al. Very frustrating. To blanket everyone with "you have hardship because you have no talent" is pretty naive in my opinion. Someone like Brad has simply matched his talent (all people have a talent for something) with a good opportunity.

I don't care if your rich or not Brad, just keep making those games that get me hooked like crack-cocaine!   
uglycow
Reply #49 Saturday, June 14, 2008 5:18 PM
Hi. I feel a little sheepish comming on the forums again. I don't mean to take over this thread or cause trouble like I have in the past. I would like to apologize for being a extreamly rude person. (That's a huge understatement!) Frankly I am surprised I havn't been banned. I'm also surprised I haven't received some sort of legal correspondence telling me to knock it off. I have personnally insulted and harrased Brad, CariElf, Kyro, and everyone else under the sun. (Sorry if I misspelled any of your profile's, and for not mentioning everyone but this post can't go on forever.) I would like to thank the Stardock team and everyone else for being civilized while I have not been. If Brad does read this post of mine on his thread he might be wondering what in the world am I doing and what am I talking about. Brad probably has already just let all my meanness bounce off of him. He may not even remember. Not that I think he thinks he is better than anyone, Brad is obviously a great person and certainly a proffessional. All the greats were and are critizized in their time. I suppose if everyone on the planet had a favorable opinion of him then maybe he should be worried. Because that might mean he was going with the flow. I may be embarressing myself again by posting this, and I know becuase of my track record I am not trustworthy. So I understand if anyone who remembers me doesn't believe this post.

Again I apologize for being mean and ugly and going into labor and producing a cow everytime I have reared my ugly head on these forums. Don't get me wrong, I don't think anyone hates my gutts and I may have actually just been an annoying spec of dust than an actual problem. (That was my attempt to be humorous.)

But seriously I am sorry.

Best game ever.
di55ec7ion
Reply #50 Sunday, June 15, 2008 6:56 AM
Brad,

i do not know if you really will read this.

If you do, remember this:

At any time in your life you will encounter people critizising what you do. It is unimportant what you do and how well you do in it, some or many of them will just exist, becauseyou do well. It seems to be almost a rule of society. Those people are often people that want to distract others - and themselves - from the truth that their own value is not as high as they want it to be. Decreasing the value of everything others do is a way to psychologically circumvent the hard task to improve themselves. If you accept the things these people say by discussing it with them you already begin to give value to them and their goal is achieved. Discussing your problems instead of theirs distracts from their own. So what every man with success and high self esteem should do is - not give a single bit of attention to those. Criticism is good - but at last it is ultimately youwho can really decide whether it is justified or not. The only person fully aware of your motives can only be you yourself. So the decision, whether criticism is justifiable or not is up to yourself. The ability to judge criticism honestly by yourself is a great skill everyone should have. But with this goes the skill to recognize unjustifiable criticism. What i wanted to tell you here is - just exactly know who you are and there will be no need to explicitly point out the amount of success you have (as you do again here), not even when you are provoked by others.

Know who you are, nobody else can.
Embird
Reply #51 Friday, June 20, 2008 8:38 PM

I am in my seventies and a female.

Turn based games allow me to use my mind and imagination.

Bless you for producing Gal Civ in all it's incarnations.

A turn based fantasy game sounds great.

To the guy whose life sucks. You need to find something that you enjoy and then find someone who will pay you to do it. If the second part is not possible, then cut your expenses to the bone and do it anyway. Spending your life doing anything else is just a waste of your life. This really needs to be done before you have others depending on you for food and shelter.

manbear
Reply #52 Saturday, June 21, 2008 9:06 AM
Thanks Embird, I'm doing that now (cutting my needs to the bone part). It hasn't been all bad and I would do it all again because I have met many amazing people along the way. Without those bad turns, those wonderful people would not have come into my life. My life really has been a rollercoaster. I've truly walked a mile in everyone's shoes.

People also took my comments too literally. It was more of an irony. Like where I grew up in rural Wisconsin another kid who is the same age as me and who lived like 20 miles from where I did then. He co-founded a fortune 500 internet company, married a wealthy heiress and is now worth hundreds of millions of dollars.

Two very similiar people with very similiar backgrounds but vastly different outcomes. Life is like that, unpredictable.

No one shoe fits all.
di55ec7ion
Reply #53 Sunday, June 22, 2008 4:32 AM
I am in my seventies and a female.


Really? You are seventy-x and you use the internet and play computer games? If that is really true you got my big respect for that. Not everyone that age is that open to the new technologies. I can`t even believe that.
Kitkun
Reply #54 Sunday, June 22, 2008 11:16 AM
I can only wish I worked for a company like Stardock.
Rhedd_V
Reply #55 Sunday, June 22, 2008 2:43 PM
I am in my seventies and a female.Really? You are seventy-x and you use the internet and play computer games? If that is really true you got my big respect for that. Not everyone that age is that open to the new technologies. I can`t even believe that.
I believe it.

I'm forty and I play video games. (Make the darned things, too.)

When you get to be forty, seventy doesn't seem nearly so old to you.

Multianna
Reply #56 Sunday, June 22, 2008 6:58 PM
Well said Mr Brad
Frogboy
Reply #57 Wednesday, July 2, 2008 3:29 AM
I was reading a book the other day that was the result of a study of elderly people that asked them what tips they had to lead the most fulfilling life and the #1 answer, by far, was "be true to yourself".
Zydor
Reply #58 Wednesday, July 2, 2008 7:55 AM
"be true to yourself"


Bravo! Its astonishing how so many people are living a live of self delusion and denial - image more than substance, and its soooo obvious who is doing it. Its pointless going down that road .... There was a recent cracking quote from Bill Gates on this kind of issue during a speech to pupils at an American High School, when he gave 11 rules for teens:

Rule1: Life is not fair - get used to it!
Rule2: The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself
Rule3: You will NOT make $50,000 a year straight out of High School
Rule4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait until you get a Boss
Rule5: Flipping Burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your GrandParents had a different word for burger flipping - "Opportunity"
Rule6: If you mess up, its not your parents fault, so dont whine about your mistakes - learn from them and move on.
Rule7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills and listening to you talk about how cool you are.
Rule8: Your School may have done away with winners and losers, but Life has NOT.
Rule9: Life is not divided into Terms. You don't get Summers off, and very few employers are interested in helping you "find yourself". Save the World in your own time.
Rule10: TV is not real. In real life, people have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule11: Be nice to Nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one!

I Love the last one

Regards
Zy
manbear
Reply #59 Wednesday, July 2, 2008 8:23 AM
If we were all Bill Gates, we would all be flipping burgers. It is only because we are not all Bill Gates that some of us can do rewarding things like bringing computers into a billion homes. In California it is so bad that you need a B.S. or B.A. just to get a low wage job, long hours and no benefits!

In the end, you always need someone to flip the burgers and unclog the sewers. That is one thing that disgusts me about America. This dillusion that everyone can be "successful" and have a "dream job". If that happened society would quickly collapse as infrastructure would disintegrate. America is awash in lazy specialists who think they are "entitled" to an easy life.

Now the people at companies like Stardock are really not the norm. They are example of what a company should be.



Zydor
Reply #60 Wednesday, July 2, 2008 9:14 AM
Now the people at companies like Stardock are really not the norm. They are example of what a company should be.


Gets my Vote ....

Regards
Zy

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